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Hey guys, it's Cody and Kaylee here with another episode of the Unengaged Podcast. How you doing? It's Monday for us. Our weekend is over and we had quite an eventful weekend, didn't we, Cody? Yeah, I feel like it literally, we just snapped and it was gone. I know. But so much fun. We had a little concert, a local concert that we went to. It was a Morgan Wallen tribute band and, you know, it was... We pretended like it was the real thing. Oh, yeah. We sure did. We were up at the stage singing along to all the songs. I was really singing along. They actually handed me the mic at one point. Oh, I wish I would have got a video of that. Yes. Of course, it was the one song I like. Once he gave it to me, I was like, oh God, do I know the words? What song was it? It was like an old, old, old Morgan Wallen song. I'll have to like go back and listen. Oh, okay. But I did my best. It was okay. Yeah. It was okay. But yeah, we had so much fun. I feel like it was kind of like the first major event of the summer. For our little town. Yeah, like for our community. And man, it was just really, really cool to be out there and just see how many people like came up to us and were like, oh my God, we love the pod. like we're listening so if you were one of those people that we talked to that day just know that that like made our whole night literally it really did thank you guys we so appreciate like the support and those of you that do listen and you tune in every week and um yeah some of you guys like you yeah we had so many people coming up to us and that were just like we love your podcast and so it was nice to hang out with you guys and like actually feel like we're out there like hanging out with our fans and you know just having a good ass time yes definitely Definitely. But yeah, it was a vibe. It was such a good vibe. And we had such a good group of people that we were there hanging out with. And you know, when you're out there and you're doing those things, you guys, it just, it's so freeing and nice to be around good people with high energy that are just a good time. And just fun to be around. It just doesn't matter where you are or what you're doing. There's just certain people that you just always have a good time with and that just make it worthwhile. And I felt like that was exactly what it was for us. Absolutely. It's like they say, it doesn't matter. My favorite places are... when I'm with my favorite people, it doesn't matter where we are. So when you're with good people, it makes such a difference. I mean, we've both, we've both gone through like times in our life where we didn't have the right people around us. And so many nights get ruined just by different things. You know what I mean? When you're not with the right people and you're somewhere like that. Um, but yeah, I think now both of us are just in an era where like, we're trying to just surround ourselves with good vibes and good people, people that just want to have fun and like, just have a good time and are happy like the vibes were so high and I mean if you know you know like if you've been out like girls night out or a night out with your like group of friends whoever that might be and like Sometimes it's just like, okay, can we make it to 11 o'clock without any drama? And that's usually how it goes. And I feel like we've all gone through that in some way, shape, or form. But I'm just so thankful that we're in a place finally. And if you're in your 20s and you're still going through that shitty phase, just know that by the time you're in your 30s, hopefully you've narrowed it down and you've gotten the right people to where it doesn't matter how much... you have fun, you know, how much you drink or any of that kind of stuff. Like if you're surrounded by the same, like the right people, it can just be like magical and like be a good time. And that's exactly what it was. I mean, we went from the concert out to like another like local bar and then like went to, we danced so much. And then like, even like got another Uber, went to another location. And like, still, it was like each place that we went, like, Yeah. Some people went home, you know, all the couples kind of dipped out a little early, but the rest of us, we were there and we were just like vibing, having a good old time everywhere that we went. And yes, I am still tired. And that was two days ago. I know. Gosh, that's the only down part. You know, that's the only downside. You guys like that fun. Like it takes recovery time when you're in your thirties. The hangovers are real. Oh my gosh. Yeah. It was so worth it though. Honestly, it was so worth it. We had such a good time. Um, And yeah, it was just so much fun. I don't know, my aunt always told me, and I have to say, like she told me this when I was really young. Well, I was like in my early 20s, but she would tell me like, Always come home before 12. Like, nothing good happens after, like, 11, 12 p.m. Like, yeah. I don't abide by those rules. And if any of you listeners are local, you probably know that. But it's, like, true. When you think about it, like, any nights that did go sideways, like, most likely, it probably was something that happened after, like, 11 or 12, right? Like, it's always when it gets, like, that witching hour, like... You know, people reach that different level of drunkness or whatever. And it's, yeah, a lot of times that's like when stuff goes down. So that's when things get weird. But I mean, this time they didn't, which was nice. You know, I'm like, I appreciated that. It was a good time. Yeah. Yeah. We ended up at Johnny's at the end of the night. And, you know, one of my favorite DJs was there playing and it was a good vibe and good times.

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Who was DJing? DJ Ness. Oh, okay. Shout out DJ Ness. Yeah. But yeah, so it was a, it was a good time for sure. Yeah. Yeah. And I kind of social media soft launched my new relationship. Yeah. There was a kind of, well, you hard launched at the event, but it was definitely a soft launch for the socials. Yes. Oh my gosh. It's especially when you live in a small town and it's an event like that and everyone from town is there and you bring like a new person.

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yeah everyone was like yeah i think that this poor man thought that he was going to a concert like low-key he did like a two-hour meet and greet you know but he took it like a champ you know he did he did he loved it yeah i feel like it didn't seem as like intense as i would have thought like he was just kind of like there like hanging out like doing his thing we're talking about the knight in shining armor you guys and another battle was won yep no definitely that's like it's kind of like it goes back to um one of our last episodes that we just did about how like it helps when you're dating somebody also that has like an outgoing personality and good energy because it's just a lot easier and it's there's less force and there's more flow to situations like that where you're bringing them around the town or friends for the first time there's a flow to it you know what i mean let's take it back to a couple episodes okay right we we had the infamous the ick list oh the ick list yeah so here we had all these these things out there right you know that we're like these are our red flags these are our ics okay this man went the opposite like i don't know he probably did listen to the episode i don't know but i mean let me tell you like i could tell when he like one he showed up early he was ready before we were ready which is like major green flag flag okay so he was willing to pack the cooler and all the things while we were doing our little finishing touches He shows up with the perfect outfit, understated but clean, good looking. It had all the right shoes with the right jeans, okay? Everything was fitting nice the way it was supposed to, even though it definitely wasn't a normal everyday outfit for him. Yeah, like he kind of went with more of a country vibe. He even wore the hat, like he did the cowboy hat, and he like pulled off the whole vibe. Yeah, he pulled off the whole look. It looked like he wore that every day, like it was something that he just had, so... Points for that. Yep. And then the same thing, like, you know, if you guys are local, you know, if you're not, I'll give you guys like a little inside, you know, thing on the area where we live. It's a very, very small town, small community, but everybody knows everybody. So it's like, you know, very, very hard. I think for somebody new coming in, especially coming in with, um, you know, a group of people that are, um, kind of well known and and you know very popular and like those kinds of things it's like that can be a little overwhelming yeah you know for somebody new coming in and he did not care like I was like dang like have you lived here for 10 years like I didn't see the difference like he was just talking to everybody having a good time it's cool confident collected yeah yeah notes Take notes. Yeah. Spoke to everybody. Like if I went up and introduced him to somebody like a girl, then he would go and talk to like their husband. And then like, you know what I mean? Like it was just conversation flow. But I feel like there has been a whole flow to this since the very beginning that has just come so naturally and it's not efforted. It honestly really does. So it was nice. Somebody did call him out though and said, you can tell you're not from here. like is glow oh really yeah she was like you're not from here yeah well she would know like she's she's been around everywhere like all over the world this is one of my really good friends but she's you know seen all walks of life you know with everything that she's gone and done in the last 10 years I loved that though she said it in a sweet way and she meant it that way yeah you know where she's like you're not from here like I knew like okay but like you're you're working it yeah exactly exactly that was the yeah that's the vibe for sure but All right. This leads us into my first question for you, Cody, for both of us. Oh, yeah. Would you date you? And if yes or if no, why? And you guys ask yourself this, too. When we were talking about this in, like, our show notes and everything, my first immediate, like, response was going to be no. Or it could be yes, maybe why you would and why you wouldn't. Or, like, the pros and cons, maybe, of, like... Yeah, I don't know. Like, I mean, I think the more that I really have thought about it, actually, I think I have dated me, like, in a sense, you know? Like, honestly, like, I think one of the people I was with, like, in high school and, like, right after, like, one of my longer relationships, like, I think he was kind of, like, the guy version of me. Oh. Yeah. Okay. So I totally, I'm like, you know, but, like, honestly, like, that was... That was fun. You know, so like, I think like, okay, like maybe, you know, and I would want to date somebody that's kind of more like me compared to a lot of the people that I've dated in like the recent past. Yeah. Like in what ways? I want somebody that's outgoing. I want somebody that like has fun, that's spontaneous, that like isn't afraid to like, you know, add tickets to cart. You know what I mean? And like, you know, like just like get it. You know what I mean? Like just not like overthink it. Yeah. And like overthink the situation. Or like I feel like I don't. You're like, yeah, let's go. You're spontaneous. I'm just like, let's do it. Yeah. You're very spontaneous like that. You need someone that's the same way. I feel like if I have to think about something for more than like five, 10 minutes, like I'm not into it anymore. You know? So like if I have, whenever I'm dating. It's like either a hard yes or a hard no. Yeah. Like there's no in between for me. So it'd be nice to have somebody that's like that. Well, I think that, I think that that just means also that you're very decisive and you need someone that's also decisive. Like knows what they want. Yeah. That's how I take it. Yeah. Yeah. No, for sure. Definitely like wish that like there were more people out there that were more decisive like me. Like I feel like that would make almost 90% of the issues that I've had with like the last like three relationships or like situationships completely go away. Yeah. Because I will say that that is the number one thing that like annoys me. Like in a relationship is when somebody like can't make a decision. Thank you. Yep. I've been there. I agree. That's that, that needed to be on the list. Yeah. Well, and I mean, you know, and I think like, um, there was actually a couple of things that didn't make it on the, I know that I thought about afterwards, did that episode that you thought about later that you wish you would, we could have added, I did the same thing, but see, like, that's my thing. Like, I will say that, that, you know, we have kind of talked about it or touched on it in like a kind of more larger scale type of way. I think, you know, where we talked about it, like in the situationship episode where it's like you know people can't make decisions like about relationship or commitment and those kinds of things like I think that's the bigger thing I would just love it if somebody like could make a decision on whether or not they want to take time off from work to go somewhere or if they want to truly buy that concert ticket and not think about it. Yes. Be more decisive. If I send you a link to something and I say, hey, do you want to do this this weekend? Don't say, oh, let me think about it. Just be down. If you're, if, if, you know, they would say like, oh, I'll let you know, really means no. Like it's just no. It's true. It's like, just say it, say how you really feel. Like, cause also the vibe that that gives me is that you're not excited to do it, you know? Otherwise it would be an automatic yes. And if you're not excited to do it, then I'm not excited to do it with you. yes and i feel like that goes back to our last episode about situationships you just described a situationship yeah when there's one person that doesn't you know that doesn't want to go all the way in there's one that does you end up in a situationship it's literally what you just said it's like now i'm not excited to do it with you yeah because you you're so like wishy-washy i don't know wishy-washy and so undecisive about it that it's like no Yeah. Like, now I'm not excited. No, don't get me wrong, okay? Sometimes my immediate decisiveness, like, has definitely taken me down some roads that maybe I should have, you know, looked both ways before crossing the street. But, you know, like, hey, better to fuck around and find out, right? Yeah. Than to not at all. It's so funny. It's so funny because I'm literally, you know, I'm the same exact way. Yeah. I'm the same exact way. And, like, we don't half-ass things either. No. Always use your whole ass. Yep. Use the full booty. Would you date you? Well, hold on. I want to ask. Okay. You know, I got to pull more out of you. So what would be... So your answer was yes, you would date you and the reasons why you would want to date you. But what would be the negatives about dating you? If you were someone else and you were dating you, what are like the cons? You're all, there are none. There are none. Because we're all about, you know, I mean, keeping it real and being self-aware and all of those things. So... would be the cons oh gosh i want you guys to think about this too because this is a big part of like also like healing and self-reflection is we what we say we're not perfect you know what i mean and we still have things that we need to work on and nobody is perfect it goes unsaid everybody has things they need to work on like i think if i like the con of dating somebody like me is like I think I'd be a little stressed. Yeah. Like, I think there'd be like a little too much chaos, you know? Um, truly. Yeah. I think I would be a little bit stressed, you know, like there's a lot of, um, there's a lot of chaos that comes with dating somebody like me. Like, I feel like, especially like with the freedom that I've allowed myself in this era of my life, I think having two people like that would just be, maybe be like a danger to society i think that's what we are together um yeah i think in this era though like you're probably a lot more calm than i am yeah for sure which we've taken our turns you guys one of these days we'll have to do like a deep dive episode on like the past kaylee and cody maybe take you down memory lane but um Yeah, I think I think it would almost be like too much. You know what I mean? Like too much chaos too much. Like, I think if I dated somebody that had the same level of like ADHD that I do, like, nothing would get done. Like if that was a successful relationship, like, I hope and pray to God that this person is independently wealthy because we would need to get a house cleaner or, like, you know, somebody to just manage our lives for us because it would just be a lot. Yeah. Yeah. That's something that, like, I have, like, depended on a more calm, like, you know, chill, responsible type partner. Like, I definitely can pull myself... Like someone that can keep you a little more grounded. Yes. Yes. Like... Still be down. Indoor cat vibes, you know? But at the same time, yes, I would love to have somebody that's more down to do things. Yes. It's a balance. Okay. What about you? Would I date me? Yes, I would definitely date me. I just think it kind of like... I agree with what you said. It kind of goes back to like... you know, wanting someone that's very decisive, wanting someone that isn't afraid to like take risks and like go after what they want out of life, whether it, you know, be in business and whatever it is, a trip, you know, concerts, whatever, like just someone that isn't afraid to, yeah to just go after what the fuck they want and actually in a lot of ways I feel like right now I am dating a male version of me like I could see it I was gonna say I'm like I think that you're finally there like you're finally like in a place where like it doesn't it doesn't like take convincing. Like it's just an effortless flow. Like what you were saying, you know? Yeah. I think too, something that I admire about myself and I've been noticing it a lot, especially lately is I think something else that would be nice about dating me is being able to date someone that can, that has ability to self reflect and admit when they're wrong, like pretty quickly. Like I can do that. Like, you know, hey, you know, I overreacted about this yesterday and I apologize. And that was my... And then also being able to identify where it comes from. Like, I'm like, oh, that was a trauma wound from, you know, an abandonment issue I had from my childhood. And this is what triggered it. And I'm sorry, I overreacted or whatever. Like, I think being able to be with someone who's self-aware like that would be cool, you know, because it's like... Yeah. And, um, I think just someone that like thinks the way that I do, I'm, I'm, you know, we talk about it, like we're professional overthinkers. Right. Um, but I watched this video yesterday and it was talking about how, um, it was talking about, it was from Instagram. It was a real, and it was talking about overthinkers and it was saying like, don't date an overthinker unless you want to be like loved harder than you've ever been loved in your life. And then he was going off all the reasons why, because the key was saying like, you'll never, um, I will always think about you. I will always consider you. I will always check in on you. I will always think about everything. Literally, because I will always think about everything, but you will always be considered. You will always be... I will always text you every morning, good morning. I will always, if we get into an argument, I will always think about how you feel. I'll always think about what I did wrong. You know, just all the things. Yeah, that's huge. And you know what? That's something, like just that piece, like side note, like that is one thing that I realized coming out of the last relationship that I was in. Like... I realized that that was a thing that like not everybody has. No, it's not. So like for me, like I have every time I get into like, you know, an argument or something like that with somebody that I'm with, I'm always the one that like thinks about both sides. Mm hmm. And I'm always the one that has my argument, has my feelings on it, and says how I feel. And then I also consider, well, how does this make them feel? Or how should they be feeling after this? And if it doesn't match up, then I'm like, well, what the hell? Why don't they feel that way? Or why isn't it this way or that way? And blah, blah, blah. And I try to anticipate all the different angles of that thing. But I've realized now that if you're not dating an overthinker or... your friend that you're in an argument with or, you know, family member or boss or coworker. They're not giving a fuck about how they made you feel. Well, right. Like there's that, but like if they're not an overthinker, like they might not even be truly able to like interpret what you're trying to put across. It's like you speak two different languages. Yes. They, yeah. And it's like having to spend a lifetime of explaining your heart to someone or explaining your, your way of thinking or your side to someone that is never going to understand because they just don't think the way you do. Absolutely. I think I, I honestly, like, I know we joke around a lot and we're like, Oh, over thinkers, over thinkers. But honestly, I'd rather, I'd rather be like this, honestly. Like, and I think sometimes I'd rather not. Really? Yeah. Ignorance is bliss. I wish I didn't have this. You know, one of the things that, um, I don't even know where I got this or who told me this, but ever since I heard it, it has changed the way that I deal with things like this. I was told that text messages are obviously the worst form of communication, especially when you're trying to get something across, like your feelings, for instance. Because when it's a text message, you're sending it from your point of view. So when you read that message, even though like your punctuality might be on point, maybe you put a bunch of emojis in there, any of those things like to try and truly like nail down like how it is that you're truly feeling, it doesn't matter. It's always going to be read from their point of view. Yeah. Yeah, absolutely. I've heard that too. And so it's like when you're having some sort of like conversation that like truly like needs to have emotion behind it to truly be understood, like pick up the phone or have that talk in person where they can see your face, see your facial expressions, your body language, because even talking on the phone isn't necessarily like the most efficient for something like that. But like text messages are that way. And it's exactly that. So like as an I might read a text message and read it seven different ways. Yep. You know what I mean? But like other people might just read it once and go, well, what the fuck? Yeah. You know, like whatever then, you know, like that kind of thing. But I just feel like we truly do love the hardest. I really do. I think we love the hardest. And yeah. And I think that it's a superpower to some degree too because we can juggle a lot at once. I think like an overthinking brain is kind of like that ADHD brain also. We're hyperactive a little bit. I think that's what it comes into. Yeah, totally. That's where it derives from. And people like that, to me, that's also a superpower because we can just juggle and handle and do so much more than other people can that get really overwhelmed or can only do one task at a time. Whereas we could be juggling so many different things at once too. Um, I mean, yeah. So I think that, I think I would definitely date myself. I think that, um, I think the cons to dating me what are the things you would not I'm pretty aware yeah I'm pretty aware of my cons um I think definitely it can be a little bit of a brat sometimes and be a little too spoiled like I I give a lot but I also I expect a lot and my my standards at this point in my my life in my era are really high so there's just um I think there'd be also a level of stress because there's just honestly not a whole lot I'm gonna tell So, like, I think that that could be stressful for someone. And just to deal with, like, the spoiledness a little bit, too, you know? Shout out to our friends. Truly, like, I'm thinking about this because I'm like, yeah, okay, like, you know, we have our knight in shining armor and, like, he's taking it like a champ. And I'm super freaking single right now. But, like, shout out to our friends that are truly, like, in some shape or form kind of dating the both of us. Oh, absolutely. In a platonic way, like, you know, like that. Yeah. you guys are champs like yes thank you for dealing with my multiple personalities no yeah sheesh oh man like especially the ones that are like close to the both of us like you know oh my god how katie deals with it no yeah yeah shout out to katie for keeping us on multiple vacations and dealing with our multiple personalities like seriously no but um Yeah, I think that would be... Yeah, I think those would be kind of like the cons of dating me. I'm sure. I'm doing a lot of self-reflecting right now. I'm like, damn. I know, I just did right now too. I'm like, oh no. I'm like, I got to fix this. I got to fix that. I got to change. I got to grow more. I got to get better. Dude, I'm telling you. I'm also really impatient. Oh, I am the most impatient person in the world. But it's like you said, it's the decisiveness. So to me, it's like... if I want something or if I'm going to do something, I'm going to book it now. I'm going to do it now. I'm going to, I'm not going to wait till later. I'm not going to mull it over and like, no, or it's like, and I also expect that person to be the same way toward me about us and about our life together. Cause I'm not here. I, so I've had enough time wasted. I'm not trying to like, just have more time be wasted either. You know? So we're talking about this. It came up as a con, right? But to me, green flag okay so I truly if you're out there and you're listening like that's a green flag like if I am into something or if I'm into you you're gonna know really fucking quick yes you're right you're right I'm not gonna dilly-dally around like I'm not gonna like string you along like I'm either in it or I'm not and you're gonna know like you'll never be Yeah. You're going to know. Yeah. We will let you know. I mean, I literally just sent like a text message to somebody that like I was trying to see if maybe it would go somewhere, whatever. This is the girl from the lake. Right. You know, and the other day, like I was just like over it. Like I'm like, I just there's too many little things that I'm just like, no, like this isn't going anywhere. This isn't. She's indecisive as shit. And whether she likes me or not, obviously you don't like me enough to figure it out. And so I'm like, pull the ripcord. I thought we already pulled the ripcord on her. Well, yeah, but I'm just saying. I'm just putting it to this context. Got you. No, I'm not going to string this along or continue to dry text you for the next three weeks and see if something changes. No, it's either fireworks or I'm out. It's either. Yep, exactly. And you do. We deserve people who are decisive about us. Like, I don't want to. That's why we talked about like the nonchalant, the not sure that like, no, like that's no, we are in this whole other era where we are not accepting anything less than like a thousand percent all the way in. Bonnie and Clyde fucking ride or die. Like, let's go. Yeah. Like, if I can't count on you to, you know, like, be that person all the time, like, I don't want it. I don't want it. Yep. I can't stand somebody that, like, doesn't have, like... steady communication or doesn't like know what they want and like go for it Adam add that to the list I cannot it's such a red flag such a red flag both of those things it's especially when like you've accepted that in your past the old you accepted that like I mean that's what's cool about going through shitty relationships and friendships and all that because we learn from it we grow from it and we know what we don't want now and it's like that might have been a season but now this is a season of not accepting less than what we deserve but I get it too like when you're in your total like single era like what you're in right now too I remember I was you know when I was single for like I was single for like two years you know and it's like you kind of just like you get to points though where you kind of you just like you're like man I just want to hug you know or I just want I have needs you know I just got some needs that need to be met at this point you know you know I've been there you know what I mean where you're just kind of like you do lower, you go on, what do you call it? You go on discount. Yeah. You know, you know your worth, but sometimes you go on sale. Yeah. Yeah. Sale, you know, but like, I don't know. I feel like I've been on sale for a fucking minute and I'm kind of like over it. Like I will say like, you know, dj cody d's you know song of the day right now is broadway girls by morgan wallen like i feel like that is literally the last month of my life that song like i've never truly listened to the words but i did on the way here while i was sitting in the drive your line at starbucks and i'm all i've never like truly deeply listened i've heard the song a bunch of times but i never truly felt attacked i felt attacked i was like oh my god like i mean obviously Morgan Wallen had it a lot better. He was swimming in a much better pond on Broadway in Tennessee. But like, you know, that's how I feel on San Benito Street over here. Fuck, you know, like, yeah, I just yeah, it's a lot of it's a lot of maybes and a lot of maybe nots. I feel like that's kind of like any time I went through that during my singledom, girl, I just during that time, I was just kind of like, all right, I'm just going to literally like pour into me so hard. And I just literally would give myself all of the things that I wish someone else was giving me. I would give myself. I would spoil myself. I would self-care so hard, like take myself to the fucking spa, go and get my hair done, get my nails done, get my again or fucking, okay, I'm going to whatever. Like all the things. That's where I'm at right now. Just pour into yourself so hard during those times. That's where I'm at. Because, you know, when the right person does come around, That's kind of where you need to be during that time. You need to be so distracted with loving yourself so much that you're not even looking and it just comes. Yeah. Yeah, I think that is kind of, like, the switch in lanes that I'm doing right now. I see that, too. I feel like in the last, like, two weeks or so, like, I'm just, like, so over, like, all of these people. And don't get me wrong. Like, I love the attention and, like, I love being out there and, like, entertaining these people. Like, it's fun. Like, dating is fun. But at the same time, like, there's some shit that I'm just so fucking frustrated. It's fun, but it can also be draining. Oh, my God. Like, yesterday... Um, gosh, maybe we need to get some nicknames for some of these other people, but, um, you know, I, I got like a call to like go out and like, you know, that there was a bunch of fun things happening downtown and like, I should come and all these things. And I'm like, eh, like, You need to talk to someone that doesn't live here, that invites you to stuff like in Carmel or Monterey or even San Jose, like somewhere else. The last time I swam outside the pond, I really like fucked myself over. Yeah, but that was like... That was like a bad area. Yeah. I know. I know. That was a bad one. I shouldn't. I need to like X. This is okay. If the creators of Hinge or any of these dating apps are out there listening, you guys need to like make it to where we can X out certain cities from our radius. Oh, right. Like I want to like. You're all 40. Like I want the 100 mile radius, but I want to like. But in that other direction. I want to like. This way. Yeah. Do north. Yeah. Like I really want to like just take some of these little communities and be like do north. Don't give me anybody within this five miles here. Yeah. It sucks because when you do the radius, it does it all the way around. It does it all the way around. You're like, I want to do the radius in that direction. Can y'all make it like Zillow where I can like, you know, circle like certain neighborhoods and be like, I only want this right here. There you go. I want a tax bracket, you know, kind of thing on there. I want to know. Yes. Somebody do like a... instead of just verifying their profile picture can you like verify their bank account and like make them send you screenshots of their credit score and shit their past rental history yeah did they pay their rent on time were they able to afford it or did they just pass all that debt on to their ex oh man sorry that wasn't personal or anything but um yeah no I don't know that's where I'm at right now like I literally sat on the couch and like watched sex in the city or not even sex in the city but the new are you watching the new one and just like that No. What's that one? Girl. Did you not know that, like, there's, like, new seasons that exist? Wait, what do you mean? From Sex and the City? Yeah. No. Yes, for, like, the last three years there has been... It's a new show. It's on HBO Max. Is it still with the same girls? All the same girls except for Samantha. The best one? Why was she not in it? I think it was, like, a casting thing, but they have another girl that's in it. We're huge Sex of the City fans. Yes. We're major, major, major Sex of the City fans. Oh, yeah. Sometimes I feel attacked by that show. Like the one when I first started dating this guy because you guys... I know I always said in all the episodes about older men is where it's at. And I was going to end up with an older guy. I ended up with someone who's 10 years younger than me, you guys. And he does not carry himself like that. But anyway, that episode, the one where it was like young guys, maybe young guys is where it's at. You know, it's like these young men. You know what's funny is I was thinking about that like after, of course, right after the episode where we did like nickname him. I'm like, he should have been Mr. Big. But it's okay. Maybe we'll rename him later on. That would have been cute. Maybe. We'll let you guys know. Names have been changed. But no, I think, yeah. The new ones are good. You would like them because it's them now. Oh, okay. So it's like– I'm so sad. I'm not going to lie. Samantha's my favorite. Yeah. I'm really sad. And the girl that they have that's on there that like is kind of taking her spot, she's interesting. Okay. She kind of reminds me of somebody in real life, but I'm kind of like– yeah yeah okay but um yeah Samantha's one of my favorites wait so where is that show at though because I it's on HBO and it's called and just like that we have to give me your login because yeah I'm like we have a new button on our on our page called support yeah for the podcast if anybody wants to donate to the cause on our new website meaning uh that you can donate to Kaylee's HBO Max and Hulu logins oh my gosh right yeah no just kidding but for all that button is there But, yeah, no, that show's really good. I won't give away anything, but some characters come back, some characters don't. Okay. There's a lot of things that are going on in there that I think you would be like, ooh. Yeah, I can't wait to watch it. Yeah, I'm surprised you haven't seen it yet. Yeah. I think you might be more in your Charlotte era right now. Get us down, Charlotte. But in this one, I feel like a bitch. I think you're more like her right now than anybody else. Scary. But no, if you guys could be any character, who would you be on Sex and the City? Ooh, yeah. Who would you be? Me? Yeah. God. You know, I hate it because I feel like in my heart, I really want to be Carrie. Mm-hmm. But I feel like I'm fucking Miranda. And even with these newer seasons, too, I'm like, God damn it. I could see that. I hate it, but oh well. I wish I was a little bit more loosey-goosey. I could be like Carrie. But yeah, I feel like I'm a cross between Carrie and Samantha. Yeah. I feel like I'm I could see it. But again, like Samantha, I feel like there are some like Charlotte tendencies. But again, I mean, it's probably why like for me, like I really don't like Miranda, but I feel like that's who I am the most like. And that's yeah, I feel like that's you and Charlotte. like I feel like the stuff that you don't like about her if you were to name them out loud I don't know what they are but I feel like if you were to name them out loud I would be like yeah that's what makes you her okay I'm gonna name it out loud I don't like how she's always well one she's super vanilla I'm not vanilla like that like she's always very like about anything sexual or anything like you know and like she's more modest she is very like more classy I'm not I'm not modest and you know what I mean you know I'm not there's nothing modest about me Um, but I think the thing that bugs me the most about her is how much she just always like, she just wants to get married and like be in love so hard and like find someone to like settle down with and marry. And yeah. Huh. Interesting. This is the, this is not the first episode of our podcast that you've listened to. I'm sure you're probably thinking the same thing. Okay. Okay. Well, you let me know how you feel after being single for a whole nother year and I've been single for the majority of my fucking life. Okay. No, but, um, yeah, that's, you know, and again, it's like, that's where I'm like, man, I am fucking Miranda. And I feel like the last person that I was with was my Steve. Like I knew it was wrong from the beginning, knew it wasn't a good fit. They definitely weren't up to my fucking standards.

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But, you know, fucked around and found out. Oh, man. And now we're no longer together. And now we're going to just, you know, figure out who we really are. There you go. So there we go. Right, guys. I think that's all we have for you today. Yeah. Yeah. Sorry. We're a little we're a little tired from the weekend. So I hope this was like entertaining enough. episode for you guys if not come back next week give us some ideas but another fun feature that we just added to the podcast is you guys can actually send us fan mail now so if you have any like questions or any topics that you want us to touch on or anything like that like send us send us all the mail like send us a text on there or even DM us on Instagram and engage podcast yeah DM us Yeah, DM us on there and, you know, like give us all the tea. Like we totally want to like help you guys out if you have any like dating questions or any fun stories that you want us to kind of like unveil for you and like, you know, put out there. Let us know. Let us know. All right. Well, see you next week. Thanks. All right. We'll see you next week. Bye.