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Hey guys, Kaylee and Cody here. How's it going? We're back at it again with another episode of the Unengaged Podcast. Yep, we're here and we're in pretty good spirits. We were just laughing and talking about some things, so... We're ready to roll. But we also just wanted to like let you guys know like we're not going anywhere. Yes, you're still going to get us maybe every other week or so. We'll have a guest or every two weeks. But just know that, you know, those those two besties that you feel like and you have like you feel like you have in the back of your car right on the way to work. We're still going to be there with you guys. We're still here. We're still in the headphones. We're still us and our goofy little selves. Yes. But yeah, so we just wanted to kind of assure everybody that, you know, we're not changing up the whole platform, but we're just kind of adding to it every now and then. So we're super excited that we have this opportunity to kind of speak our minds and also give a platform to other people that are out there that want to be heard. And it's just, it's been such a fun ride so far. Absolutely. Absolutely. Yeah. Absolutely. And it just adds more to it and it gives you guys more different, you know, different perspectives and, you know, just more to get more knowledge to gain, you know, from other people besides us. And, uh, it also does a lot for us too. When we have guests, like we learn so much. Oh my gosh. Yes, dude. The episode with Coach D, I learned so much. I listened to it as if it wasn't me recording. And I was like, oh, wow. There's a lot of information packed in here. So we hope that you guys got the same information. you know, out of it or something similar out of it. I know that she had a lot of good information, a lot of wisdom. And, you know, I learned a lot from it. I know Kaylee learned a lot from it. And hopefully you guys got something out of it too. But yeah, as for today. Yeah, as for today. You're stuck with us. And this episode is going to be not like that. No, not at all. We're going back to our roots. Yeah. So what are we talking about today, Cody? Well, I mean... I think we truly need a life update from you, Kaylee. Oh, no. A lot has happened in two weeks. We have a new player in the game. She calls him our boyfriend. Yeah, he's our boyfriend. Not to confuse anybody. We're not in a polyamorous relationship, I swear to God. Yeah, no. But he, honestly, he treats my best friend so freaking good. And he just, he's got the blueprint, you guys. Any, like... good best friend out there will tell you like the easiest way to somebody's heart is through their best friend yep you got to win the best friend over first and the best friend has to give their stamp of approval right

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their standards are going to be higher for us than even our own sometimes. No, absolutely. Because we see it all, right? You know, we see it when you're like down, like, you know, if someone's not giving you the kind of energy that you deserve, we're the first ones to see it before you even realize it. Yep. But yeah, no, I'm excited for you with this. Thank you. yeah you know I was like I'm kind of waiting to talk about it and you know I just want to remain as open as I possibly can on here otherwise like that's why you guys are here right you guys are here for the honesty so yeah we're just gonna what are we what are we gonna call him we're gonna call him the I think he's your knight in shining armor I think that's really the only thing to give it to him I know we've like played with a couple of other nicknames for the show but I think that one just sells it you know and it kind of gives you an idea of what we're working with here Yeah you guys I mean wow just sometimes I feel like um when it comes to this guy like I'm living in a manifested dream like it doesn't even feel real because there's just so many qualities that I have wanted throughout my life from a man and especially in the past couple years um that I just wasn't getting um and um you know that this guy is just you guys he is showing up and He's coming correct, let me tell you. I mean, just all of the things you could possibly want, all of the things that I've talked about in the podcast that I like, you know. Someone who's just very intentional about spending time, planning dates, taking initiative. Not just that, somebody who's just has direction in their life, go-getter. Kind of his personality is very much like mine, super outgoing person. Really good energy. And just he's super like in tune with his emotions and how he feels. He affirms me every day. Like he's very good with like communication and just affirming me of how important I am to him. And I mean... You guys, it's endless. It's like I don't even have enough words to describe. And this is not her trying to flex, you guys. No. This is truly what it really is. I don't even think she's really doing it justice at this point. But quite honestly, it just brings so much life to that thing where they tell you somebody can come into your life for three weeks and show you something that you waited for somebody else to show you in three years. Yep. And it's out there. And I think that us as like women in our 30s, we kind of like start to let go of that like dream of like the perfect person and the perfect partner and we start to settle down. and say okay well you know I'm already 30 and that person might not actually exist and I'm asking for too much and all of that but I'll tell you guys all right hope has been restored because all of a sudden here comes this guy like I'm thinking about it right now I'm like does he listen to the podcast like um he has listened to some episodes but he doesn't regularly listen and I've told him I'm like I'm an open book with him and you know I've been extremely honest so um you know I told him him I mean if you feel called to listen listen but if not like I'm okay with that. Yeah. Well, I think about that too. And like, okay. Cause like we said, these are all the things, all the qualities that we're like, we need out of somebody. Right. And we want, and I'm like, man, like, it's like as if somebody wrote it down for him, but I think we might have. And you know, and it's like, I also think about this, that, you know, um, people from the past have refused to listen to the podcast and for very selfish reasons of, oh, I don't want to hear what's being said about me it's like oh okay well you could have listened to it and maybe gotten some tips like open up a journal and take notes yeah yeah so it's like okay like now we know where the intentions are right and when the intentions are good it's like The more that you know, the more prepared you're going to be, no matter what it is, right? I always say it. Luck favors the prepared. Yep. It's so true. I mean, shoot, if I was talking to someone that has a podcast, they wouldn't even have to ask me to listen. I would be like, how do I find this? Yeah. What platforms are you on? Yeah. How long do I have to binge listen? Seriously. It's like, why not? It's like doing research. Yeah. And I am one for the research. No, but I'm here to tell you guys, man... Yeah, it was literally in the moment that I had thrown up my hands and I said, I'm done. I'm done. I'm done with men. I'm done with dating. I'm done with trying to meet someone. I'm done with trying with this other person. And it wasn't really even in a negative way, you guys. I just had claimed like, you know what? I'm living for me. I'm living my joy. I'm living my bliss. I'm just going to focus all of my energy into being happy on my own. And that was literally the moment that... where the universe was like, and just dropped him right into my life there you go it's just one of those little oh the light was shining down yes the light was shining down yeah yeah so but um anyway that's what happens when your best friend is too drunk to take you on a jet ski

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literally

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no but i'm just i'm here to tell you guys don't settle okay because um i was kind of in that space where for a long time you guys i just i i tolerated a lot more than i should have i accepted bare minimum treatment bare minimum everything for the longest and you know um your manifestation or your your dream person or your what you truly deserve in life whether it's a person or a job or a whatever is on the other side of you letting that person or that job or that thing go

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yeah

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because you know you have to negative energy yeah and you can let it

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go

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you can say you want all these things but it's like You kind of got to prove it to the universe. Prove it by letting go the things that aren't aligned with you and that you're, you know, you know, you're worthy of so much more of. And yeah, so. Well, I'm excited. And if anybody, if the universe is listening, I may be ready for. You're on my turn. Probably not. But yeah, I think that's also showing by the couple of people that. I have kind of coming up. There's a lot of things right now that I'm like, hmm, maybe, maybe not. Let me dip my toe in the water. Let me dip my toe in the water. No, the last couple of weeks I've been... I've been seeing a lot of icks. I think that's kind of going to be the theme of this episode. We were kind of talking about this earlier, you know, like how easy it is just to get the ick from somebody. Yeah. Have you guys ever gotten the ick from someone? Like someone that you were maybe really into initially and then they just like did something or said something or maybe it was like, I don't know, maybe it's the way they dress. Maybe it's you know, whatever, it's something. There's just certain things that I'm just like, I'm not, I'm not impressed. You know, like I literally feel like Shania Twain, like that doesn't impress me much, you know, like, but yeah. Okay. What's, what's, um, what is one of your, what is one of your biggest icks right now? Oh, my biggest ick, like, like overall forever and ever. Amen. My biggest ick is somebody that can't like socially be active in a group. Ooh. Wow. That has been my biggest ick forever and ever. And I recently had one of those. I love that. The girl from the lake. You know, it was like that. Yes. Like such good energy, like between her and I. Like when it was just the two of you guys. When it was just the two of us. But then I'm like, okay, here's all my friends. Like.

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Mm-hmm.

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this is your audition for the team, you know, like, and, and just, yeah, nothing, nothing on the other side. I'm like, okay. And as you know, I dated someone that was like that too. And it was really hard. And I, I totally agree. That's like a huge ick for me now, too, because

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because

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you guys like you bring them around your friends, you bring them around social situations or, you know, especially with us, like, you know, having our own businesses, you know, with the podcast and events. We are professional yappers. Yeah, literally, literally. We have we have a podcast about that. But yeah. And if we I think especially with us, because we have very outgoing personalities, like we need to be with someone who can hold their own in a crowd. You know what I mean? Like, absolutely. If you can't, absolutely turn off. for me like if you can't come in and like not necessarily command a room and be the biggest person in there like I'm not looking for that if it comes up great would love that kind of energy but if you can't even like you know if you're one of those people that's like socially awkward or whatever which hey to each their own there's somebody out there for you we've met all of them but like not for us like not for me like that's not gonna work with my lifestyle yeah and even my ex was kind of that way You know, and it was like that really made a big difference for us because then I became less social because I had to keep her comfortable, you know, or didn't you feel like you always had to like, um, you were constantly like checking on her to make sure she was okay. Like, Hey, are you having a good time? Cause like people that are like that, you can never tell. You can never tell. Yeah. And it's like, if I have to constantly worry, if you're having a good time, guess what? I'm not able to be fully present and enjoy your time. If I'm not having a good time, then why are we here? You know? So yeah, that's, that's number one. What's number one for you? I love that. Oh, I'm still stuck on that. I feel like we can go on about that. Cause I, I was, I was literally, I dealt with that for years and, and then like, I have to go further into it. So the other aspect of that is that it comes off like, They come off rude. Yeah, they come off so fucking rude. And it's like, what the fuck are you doing? Especially if it's like, around people like friends, like, hello, you're supposed to be trying to make a good impression right now or around family. Like, like I said, this is your audition. This is your time to shine. This is your opportunity to go and show all these people that are important to me why you're important to me. Yeah. And if all the introverts that listen to us are so angry right now, and that's okay, that's okay. But it's like, you know, like at least smile in the corner. Fuck. Why do you always got to look miserable? Like, you know, like, you know, like, oh, Oh, I just can't. I can never date someone like that again. No. Like I can't do it and I won't. Cause you know, the other thing is that you get so energetically drained from having to be the one that talks the whole time and be the entertainment. Like, come on, like tap in for a minute. Like maybe I want to sit here and enjoy this drink while you talk. Yeah. But you never get the chance to do that. No, never. And then, and then, you know, I have, We have very social friends. We have very intuitive, empathic people in our lives. So they're not going to read the room. Yeah, they're not going to sit there and like ignore you. You know, if you're sitting in the corner looking like, you know, something's stuck in your throat. Like, you know, they're going to go there and be like, Hey, do you need a drink? Is everything okay with you? Blah, blah, blah. And I'm sorry if you just say, yep, I'm good. Or don't even fucking respond. Get out of here. No, like that is so rude to me. Yep. I fully agree. Make the effort. Make the effort. Yeah. Like even if you are someone that's introverted, like, you know, we have a, there's this little app, you know, it's called a chat Jeep and you know, you can ask, you can be like, you know, Hey, I'm going to meet the girls. I'm dating family for the first time.

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I'm, you know, give me some talking points. Yeah. I mean, come on, make the effort. Like I get that. Not everyone has outgoing personalities like this, but come on. It's all about the hard. It's really not that hard. It's not. I'm like, I've had to suffer through a lot of uncomfortable conversations with people that I have nothing in common with. You can say hello. Yeah. Yeah. You can say, how are you? And just listen and nod your head to someone else is talking to you. Yes. You know? Yeah. I feel like, like for me too, it's really important as like, for me with like feminine and masculine kind of like roles for me, like I got to have a man that can like lead and speak and talk and be outgoing and, And when they're like that, I feel like I can kind of sit in my feminine and sometimes allow them to do the talking. And I like that. Yeah. You know? I just need stimulation. Yeah. Like, mentally. Like, I need somebody to have a conversation with me that, like, makes me, like, think about things that I wasn't already thinking about on my own. Or, like, learn something new. Or, I don't know. Like, I'm just... I like people that are yappers. Yeah. You know, like I like the small talk. Keep the small talk to yourself. Like let's talk about fucking some real shit or something meaningful and deep. And yeah, like inspire me. Yeah. Inspire me. Like I, why are you just sitting here feeding off of what I'm doing? Like, you know, like I want to know, like, what do you have? Energy vampire. That's like another one right there. I mean, that's a whole nother ick in itself. Like somebody that has nothing to say. You know, like... Okay, preach! Preach, Reverend Cody! Oh, it's like, do you really not have anything interesting going on in your life? Like, I can't, I can't stand it. I can't stand it. Neither can I, you know, this, I might, how did I do it for so long? Why didn't you guys stop me? I might kick myself later for bringing this up because I think that this person might actually listen to the podcast, but it will, we're not going to say names. So if you know, you know, um, but literally like I was low key talking to somebody and I This person like would take hours to text back and like text back with like forward answers like, oh, what are you up to? Or how's your day? Like, I mean, kind of trying to engage, right? And I'll respond and be like, oh, I got this going on, that going on, whatever. And then like nothing from that. Not like, what are you doing? Or any of those things. Okay, then I finally like the other day was like, I'm not texting this person back anymore. Like I'm over it. I officially have the ick. You have no social skills whatsoever. Over. it did it translate in person also or was it just text because you know some people aren't texters okay so did was it also in person so then that's that's what what came up right so then we ended up having a conversation about it because she was like oh I'm just not a big texter like you know like this and that so I'm like okay fair enough like um Also, like, I'm going to throw it out there. I'm a pretty busy person. Like, I don't have hours to sit on the phone and talk to you. This person kind of lives kind of far away. So it's not like we were accessible to be like, hey, you want to come and hang out with me or this and that, whatever. So a little bit of a challenge there. But, okay.

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Give that as it may. Like, you know, like telling me that you're really a phone call person or a FaceTime person and you, you know, don't have time or aren't good at texting, which, hello, it's 2025. Okay. If you haven't figured out how to text by now. Yeah. Something's wrong with you. But you would think, okay, well, fucking hit me up then. Like, call me. Like, when I talk to you on the phone, have something to say. Oh, so you don't? Okay. So then it's not that. No. You just are, again, wet blanket energy. Yep.

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Yep.

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And no, like I'm not going to. A dull hammer. Just a dull hammer. All hammers are dull, Kaylee. I mean a dull nail. Oh, that's what I meant. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Dull nail. There you go. Yeah. I can't with you. But yeah, no. Oh my gosh. I think that one is a catch and release situation right now. Yeah? Yeah. So my biggest ick. Let's hear it. Okay. An ick for me is men that want princess treatment, that are in their princess energy. Well, that's why I'm a lesbian. If somebody wants princess treatment, they better look like one. I just feel like in my dating experience nowadays, I have encountered this a lot. Men that literally want to be treated like women. When I say that... You don't date a lot of divas. Oh my gosh. Don't say that. You really do. We are completely breaking all of those cycles right now. Yes, we are right now. I said you have dated, not are dating. Okay, you're right. This is a new chapter in our lives. But when I look down the line, I'm like, oof. Yeah. I've never seen so many selfies from a man. Oh, man. Yeah, it's like, okay, the princess treatment. What does that mean? What does it mean when these men are in their princess energy? They're the men that like they just want– They want you to pursue them. They want you to, you know, you to text them first. You basically, like for you to chase them. They want to be chased. That's called insecurity. I guess. That's insecurity looking for validation. It's, there you go. It's that. It's a lot of the, it's a lot of the wanting to be affirmed constantly or like when you, You know, a lot of, you know, when the bill does come, well, why should I have to pay? Like, I remember I got in a whole like debate and I know that not everybody agrees with this, but it's like, well, what's the difference? So who cares? Why can't you pay for my meal? And just like there's like this entitlement. And I'm telling you, these men, it's like going into their soft girl era. They're over here just sitting back in their feminine. Just tell me you're broke without telling me. Right? No, but it's like they want you to make the plans. They want you to pay for the bill. They want you to chase them. They want you to text them first. They want you to call first. They want... everything has to be initiated by you. They're in their princess energy. Yeah. And there's a lot of guys that are like that nowadays. There's any single girlies on here, whether you're in your twenties or your thirties. I don't know. Maybe, maybe there's, you know, other age brackets that fit that. But I mean, you guys know what I'm talking about. I know we're not doing video right now, you guys, but the look on my face, I don't even date men anymore, but I have the major ick from that entire thing. Like, yeah. Like, so you've experienced Actually, no, I will say that when I was dating guys, it was not that way. I always dated very like manly. Yeah. You know, so it was not that way. Good old country boys. Yes. Yeah. Call the workers. Yeah. Shit. And you know, and love that. Right. You know what I mean? Like that's some like, you know, big dick energy. Yeah. And that's how it should be. Yeah. Absolutely. Like, you know what I mean? Like if I can say that out loud, like, you know, with the preferences that I have, like, come on. Yes. It's also like, you know, these men nowadays like honestly I don't know I this is my this is my own opinion but you know like when to me it's like if a girl's on social media and posting selfies and has a TikTok to me that's acceptable if a man is sitting there posting 10 times a day he has a TikTok and you know he's trying to be TikTok famous and posting a million selfies all the time and I don't to me that's a feminine attribute it's a very feminine to me I don't I like I want my man to not be on social media to be Like, I don't even know how to work this fucking thing. You know what I mean? I work on the 401k. Okay. Yeah. Or like they're fucking, you know, they're working. I don't know. The real men out here are fucking... They're getting their hands dirty. They're getting their hands dirty. They're working under a car. They're fucking, you know... Under a bridge. Underwater welders. Something. Just kidding. Something, you know? Yeah. No, I mean, it's just like... Yeah, I don't know. Like, I've never come across that piece of it, but I have seen it. And it's like, okay. Like, what's the end goal here? Like, you know what I mean? It's like, do you want to be... Like, do you want me to be your sugar mama... You want me to support you? And, like, do you want to stay at home? Is that what you want? Because, like, that's literally how they act. I'm being dead ass. Like, and I know that that works for some people, you guys. Like, some people are like, oh, that's, you know. Some people don't have that opinion. And maybe that works for some people. But me, no. I'm not. I've never been anybody's. You know, sugar baby. I've only ever been the sugar mama. And let me tell you, it's stressful. It's stressful as fuck. Oh, man. But yeah, I would definitely have to say. the men with the princess energy that don't take initiative, that are in there more of their feminine. And it's more like the wounded feminine, right? In spirituality, it can get confusing. There's like the masculine, the feminine, but then there's like the wounded feminine, the wounded or the healed feminine, whatever. There's all this stuff. So I guess, yeah, it's more so in that unhealthy bracket. Yeah. You know. No, there's definitely something unhealthy about that. I just, yeah, I don't know. That gave me the ick. I was like, Okay, I guess I'll stay in my lane. Yeah, definitely. Okay, what other ics for you? What are some other current ics? What is a current ic? On the other side of that, an ic that I have ran into recently is... when people tell you, like, are explicit and, like, almost braggy about how much money they make. Okay. Like, there's a time and a place. Like, they put too much emphasis on material things and, like, how much money they make kind of thing. Like, literally, like, again, and I don't want to, like, throw it all out there and someone's going to be like, ooh, that's me. But, like, somebody straight up being like, I mean, it's one thing to, like, talk about your career and, like, let somebody know and be like, yep, I'm really passionate about this. Yes. You know, I do work really hard, all those things. That's cool. But when you start talking about numbers and you're not even like dating somebody, like it's just very like light. Like they're already straight up saying, I make X amount. Yeah. They're like, oh, I made X amount yesterday or I did this and I got this much. And it's like, Okay, well, unless you plan to whip out that credit card and pay for the bill, why are you telling this to me? Like, I don't... You know, not that that's what it's all about, but I don't know. I just think that there's a little icky in that. Like, it's like... Well, it's... It's a little show-off energy, and I don't know that I love that. Well, we love a successful king and queen, but... It's one thing to be... To me, confidence and success is a little more quiet than that, right? Don't be a braggy bitch. Don't be a braggy bitch. And I think for us, we're more heart-forward people. And so lead with... your intellect lead with your mind and lead with your heart I mean that's the most genuine thing you can do and if you are super mega successful that's amazing but don't lead with it in a cocky type of way yeah yeah like it's one thing okay if you got like you know some crazy huge deal that you've been working on for a long time and you're like oh my gosh it's close the biggest thing of my career this is awesome I want to go out and celebrate tonight like celebrate that specific thing yeah awesome good for you I'm here to root for you here to cheer for you like that's great to celebrate celebrate accomplishments right but if you're just trying to tell me what you did for the day and basically just reading me like your like planner and telling me how much each one of those phone calls was worth like yeah it's a little tacky yep fully fully agree okay I think I feel like I have so many honestly like um okay but let's go okay for me somebody that's constantly constantly bashes their ex or child's mom really early on too like you guys I don't just mean because some of us have gone through a lot been put through a lot by our exes but you guys know what I mean it's like those those people that are just like oh yeah my fucking ex is crazy and they're always talking about all the things that their ex did wrong to them and they look for any moment to bring it up and especially like if they have kids like to me it's like that's the mom of your kids like I cannot

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yeah

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you know and then like what is it if things didn't work out between us like damn what are you gonna say about me you know what I mean like right right it's the ones that just you know what I mean they go above and beyond to like have a little bit of humility you guys like you know obviously you had to like something about this person at one point if you were with them for whatever length of time whether it be 10 years or a week yeah it had to be something attractive about them at some point right so you know have a little bit of humility within yourself and like just adhere to that like i mean we talk about it all the time we take accountability for our parts and things crazy ass exes that like truly could be like falling in that category but i'm not gonna sit here and say that like there wasn't a time where that was the fucking sun and the moon and the stars to me because at one point it was right same thing for you but it's like yeah that's an it when somebody does that it's like okay you're just screaming out to me that you do not know how to take accountability that's what exactly what it boils down to there's like no self-awareness or accountability taking and that's that's the ick because you know we all play our part in things even in the shitty relationships me and you have had like yeah we played our part you know everybody does and it's all a two-way street like all the way across the board and if you are coming into another relationship or trying to talk to somebody new and you have nothing but negative things to say about where you were it's you know it's kind of like when you're on a job interview okay and like you know they they always make you fill out the application and they make you check the box yes or no like is it okay for us to reach out to your former employers I feel like there should be a dating when you date someone new there should be a box that you check it's a red flag when you say no it's like why not like what don't you want us to hear about them like you know like we asked

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reason for leaving why'd you leave oh they was fucking crazy over there well you know and you don't want us to call and find out like yeah exactly you don't want us to validate yeah I don't I don't like that that's an ick for sure yeah I think that there should be people should have to give references like give me your three last people you dated and I'm gonna call them before yeah because I mean you know what like I would be comfortable with that mm-hmm go for it I would totally really be comfortable with that because I mean obviously it you know something didn't work out but also like if you were yourself and you're a decent good person you probably like tried really hard like probably will say that you know what I mean or like or like even like with you know like the person I'm dating right now like I'm pretty open about my shortcomings you know it's like okay this is where This is kind of, you know, these are the things that are good about me, but I'm going to be honest, like this is kind of, you know, I can be very impatient or I can be a brat sometimes or I could be, you know, whatever it is. Right. Like you kind of just keep it real about it. Yeah. Come out and say it. Like there's no reason to not, you know what I mean? Yeah. Yeah.

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Yeah.

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That's my it right now, too, again, where I'm just like, the people that are, like, gatekeep-y like that. Like, when you're, like, first at a, like, talking stage and, like, they don't really, like, talk about themselves a lot. It's like, well, what are you hiding? Yeah. Like, what's your deal? I hate it. I hate that nonchalant shit. Or when they try to be all mysterious. Yeah, I don't like that at all. I'm not with that. Like, you know what? Life is short. We're not here to waste each other's time, okay? I'm not here to waste yours. I don't want mine wasted. Yeah. Like... Another ick. Nonchalance. Don't be fucking nonchalant. Shit or get off the pot. That's it. Don't come at me half speed. Should that lead us into another topic? Situationships? I don't know. I think that might be a whole other episode in itself. I agree. We'll save it. Yeah, we'll have to save that one because I could go on for days about situationships. True. But yeah. So what else for you? Is there another ick? Come on, we got it. Even just some simple icks. Maybe it's a wardrobe ick. Maybe it's... Why are you reading my fucking mind right now? That was weird. I knew, I knew. I have a feeling you're going to say something about like shoes. Bitch. I knew it. Okay, go ahead. I know you. Go ahead. Literally, that was weird. I don't think you've ever like read my mind as much as you did. I'm pretty sure I have before. I just don't see it. Oh, well, that one really caught me off guard. No, this is probably my biggest, biggest, biggest ick. And I don't even know if I can fully describe this without like actually throwing somebody under the bus. But again, if you know, you know. I hate it when people wear like a certain type of shoe and like aren't wearing like the right cut of like jeans or pants and it doesn't it doesn't go like, you know, like, OK, if you're wearing boots, you need to wear boot cut. jeans okay otherwise you're gonna like it doesn't look right it doesn't look right it's not the right length yeah okay if you're wearing capri pants that does not mean you need to wear little booties yeah like you know like that's not cute those don't go together like the pant needs to meet the shoe correctly it needs to meet the shoe correctly there's styles for this exact reason look on Pinterest if you're a guy and you're listening or maybe you're a girl and you don't know what we're talking about if you're a girl you should already know this and if you don't I'm not gonna teach you yeah I refuse. I'm not doing that again. Or like when you wear shoe... When you wear the wrong shoes to like... the occasion like oh like a like let's say we're on a boat

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oh god

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yeah no you don't you you have to wear there that's the thing and you know what and this might come from me i don't know if you knew this but my grandparents owned shoe stores when i was growing up no you told me that so to me and my family it's always been of like the utmost importance that you wear the correct shoe for the correct occasion yes okay PSA, if you don't know, now you know. All right. If you're going on a boat, you're not wearing shoes. Okay. This isn't a yacht. This isn't a pontoon. Like you got to. Yeah. We're talking like boat on the lake. I'm talking about like, yeah, like wake setter, ski boat, whatever. Bring a pair of slides or flip flops. Something that you don't mind like getting lost. Yeah. Okay. We had a situation. We had a situation where we were recently on a boat and somebody didn't want to take their shoes off. And I just thought it was very rude. And it's Like your shoes are not any more important than this person's boat that he lets you go on. Yeah. And that boat's worth a lot more than those shoes. Take, take them off. Don't be rude. Like that's your fault for wearing the wrong shoes. I'm just going to say it. I agree. I have like a weird shoe thing. I don't, I just think for me, I get the ick when I like clean shoes.

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I don't like it when a man is wearing dirty shoes now.

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Okay. You guys, I'm not talking about if,

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They're a blue-collar worker, and they're work boots. Okay, that's different. By the way, you guys, work boots are sexy as fuck. I have a thing for work boots. I don't know. I don't know. It just means you work hard. She's like, I don't like dirty shoes unless you're trying to get dirty in them. Right? No, but you know what I mean. Let's say you go out to a date. You're going out to a concert. You're meeting up with the occasion. Yes, it goes with the occasion, but when their shoes are dirty... I'm like, no, wear like clean, fresh shoes. Yeah. Like I'm wearing the dirtiest shoes that I own right now. And that's because I came straight from work. And thank God that I did because our walk-in was completely flooded with God knows what on the ground. And I had to sit there and mock it all. And it was horrible. And thank God I wore these shoes, not the ones that I was going to put on for a quick little go in and say hi and bye. Yeah, that's different. That's different. But yeah. I can't like Crocs. No. Never. I don't care. Nope. Nope. Nobody other than children should be wearing Crocs. No. Big no for me. If you're over the age of 16, you should not be wearing Crocs. No. And if you are there and you're wondering why you don't have a boyfriend or a girlfriend, that's why. That's why. Throw those Crocs in the garbage. It's not going to help you. No, it will not. I cannot wear Crocs. Wear some Vans. Okay. Put on some Vans or even like some Converse or... um a nice pair of work boots no crops are never acceptable no i can't with those no straight up or like even like those new balance sneakers either and like i mean like you know like the new balance sneakers they're like they call them like the dad shoes i don't know they're like they've made a comeback you mean like the like the dad mowing the lawn shoes yeah like they're like always like white They're trendy again. They have that meshy thing. Yeah, no. Yeah, no. I don't like those either. I do kind of judge people off their shoes sometimes. Oh, I absolutely do. And you know what? I should have, and I should have stuck to my guns. You're like, that would have worked had I followed my own. You know, I doubt that this person listens to it, but I know a lot of my friends listen to it. I'm just going to say it because I know everybody that truly knows me knows, but I should have known by those fucking neon orange high-top Nikes. Ew. You remember those? I don't remember those. You know what I'm talking about. But that sounds terrible. And... If she is listening, know that, yes, I did throw them away. Oh, man. And I do not regret it. Good. I probably did you a fucking favor. Love that. Okay. Let's see. Another. What other little icks? Just little ones. We're going to wrap up. We're already almost. We're almost at the end of this

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episode,

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which has been very telling about how apparently judgmental we are about people's wardrobes. Oh, man. You got to dress for the body you have, not the body you want. You know? True. My mom used to always tell me that. Oh, okay. Another ick. another ick um when you go out and i've said this before i think on here but to me when you go out to eat with somebody for the first time whether it's a friend or let's say you're on a date you guys okay i've been a waiter she's a bartender i've worked in the service industry okay um I cannot stand people that are rude when they go eat. Oh, like to the serving staff? Oh, yeah. To the serving staff. No, that goes without saying. Or like, let's say they don't tip or they don't tip well. That is like a peeve of mine. Like, I cannot stand that. Like, I'm a huge tipper. It's like... Yeah, PSA just... If you can't... And I get it. Everyone's financial situation is different. If you can't afford to tip well, then... Save up some more money and wait to go out to eat till you can because those people work extremely hard or make your own meal at home. Yeah. Like, yeah, I cannot stand that. There's a lot that goes into it, you know, because it's like you figure most places, at least if you're, you know, a server, you're also tipping out your bartender, you're tipping out your bus, or you're tipping out the kitchen sometimes, like, you know, like all those different things. Like, it's not just you walking away with that$5. Like, If you, you know. When you cut it up, what are you really taking home? Like two? They're probably taking home, you know, maybe 20, 30%. Not including taxes. If they're adequately tipping out, you know, people the way that they should. Yes. Yeah. And then just, yeah, being, I can't stand, like there's some people that I've even like friends that I've gone out to eat with before that are just rude. Just rude for no reason. I can't. I can't do it. Like, mm-mm. I can't. I can't. I'm always super... I'm overly friendly.

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Yeah. So

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am I. Like, it's probably too much. They're probably like, yeah, that person at table 37 over there is so into you. Yeah. Like, right? No, seriously. And sometimes I might be. I don't know. Yeah, be kind to the people that are waiting on you, making, you know, making you your drink. Even when you go to the drive-thru. Like, I just... It's so telling about a person when they're like... bitchy you know or about when they're you know let's say your food comes out wrong like there's just a way to go about things when you're unhappy with something i don't that's oh yeah i can't with that no i'm convinced that people that work at like the dmv or like any government entity are like all the lifetime servers that were never tipped well and like that's where they retire to and that's why they like hate their job so much they just hate people and they're like this is where i get my revenge yeah you know like wow oh that actually makes so much sense oh it tracks oh yeah it definitely tracks damn absolutely All right, guys. Well, I think on that note, we're going to leave you with those icks. And if any of them struck a chord, it might be time to look in the mirror. Yeah. Look in the mirror and maybe reevaluate that guy you just went on a date with or the girl. Yeah. If you're looking for a reason to cut the cord with somebody, you might have just found it. Yeah. And just know that all of those icks, all of those red flags have been thoroughly tested by us. Oh, yeah. Yeah.

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Yeah.

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Don't make the same mistake. Learn from us, right? And let me leave you with the biggest one, you guys. I'm just not ready for a relationship right now. Oh. And that'll lead us into our next episode. Stay tuned for more. Catch you later.