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Hey guys, welcome to another episode of the Unengaged Podcast. You have your host Cody and Kaylee. We're here, we're back at it again, ready to talk to you guys this week. We have a fun episode put together, but first just wanted to kind of recap a little bit. Yes, we want to get better about doing that. So I think where we left off on the last episode was you were going on a date. So can you tell them all how your date went, Cody? Yes. You're dying to hear. So my date with the horse trainer, it was okay. It was cool. Went to the restaurant, went and met up over there. She was a little bit late. I also, of course, was a little bit late, but I'm always about 15 minutes late. It's something I'm working on, you guys. I have really bad ADHD, so procrastination is just kind of part of the personality. But yeah, so anyway, so we went... It was really cool, you know, like, good conversation. But, like, there was, like, a lot of, like, weird kind of, like, little things in the conversation that I was just kind of, like. Wait, were you attracted to her? Like, what did she, what did her presentation look like? Oh, yeah. Did she put effort into her appearance? Yeah, she was super cute. And, I mean, you know, like, obviously she didn't spend, like, two, three hours, like, getting ready. You know what I mean? Like, she had work that day. And, like I said, like, she works with horses and stuff. But, like, no, she was a super, super pretty girl. Any initial spark or anything? Did you feel anything? Or was it just kind of you're already rolling? I would say, like, the first hour was, like, really good conversation, had a pretty decent, like, spark. I mean, it wasn't, like, cosmic by any means, but, like, yeah, I was definitely, like, initially, like, attracted to her. Okay. But, like, as the conversation got, like, deeper and, like, I was kind of, like, getting to know her a little bit more, it was, there was just weird, weird little things. What do you mean? What was weird? It... What were the red flags? Well, red flag number one was the fact that she had a lot of weird kind of like similarities to my ex. That's a big red flag. Yeah. There was like a couple of things that like she was saying that I was just like, oh, no. Yeah. We've talked about how we need to get away from our regular types. Yeah. So like that was my thing is I'm like the first hour of the conversation, there was nothing familiar about this woman. Um, nothing that seemed like my regular type. And then all of a sudden, like you said, like, it's like, you know, here I am trying to be more conscious of like, you know, really understanding like, Hey, like, is this, um, you know, like a pattern that I'm following. And then, um, realizing that there's that pattern and realizing that like, Hey, this girl like had the same very traumatic like job that she did in the past and like had similar kind of like family background and all these different little things that were kind of popping up. And I was just like, Ooh. And then another thing that this girl did too, that I thought was super weird is like, um, if I brought up like a certain topic, um, that like literally like for instance whatever I don't think she'll ever listen to this but um I we were talking about like birthdays and like I brought up that like I just had a birthday pass and I was like oh yeah like I'm an Aries like what are you And this girl was like floored that I asked her that question. And I feel like that's a pretty modern day question. Like, well, then what's your sign? That's like question. Like the first question you ask someone, like that's how the adults ask you what your favorite color is. Yeah, exactly. That's how you see if you're compatible with someone. Yeah. Like literally. Well, she told me that she didn't believe in that and, um, that she didn't believe in like astrology or whatever. And I was like, Oh, okay. You know, like astrology is literally scientific. Yeah. But I'm like, Like, hey, to each their own. Yeah. You know, no big deal. And I was just like, you know, so like, why? Like, why don't you... like participate in that like you know like what's the thing and I'm thinking like she probably like dated some other lesbian that was like crazy like had their like birth card tattooed on them yeah I've come across that yeah um but no she told me that her dad went through a phase where he was a witch oh wait isn't that a Wiccan when it's a or it's like a male witch is a Wiccan I suppose I mean again I don't know but it was and then I was just like oh okay good for him you know and I won't go all the way into it like put her on blast you know what I mean but like literally she was like telling me like how her dad like went through all these phases about like where like he like was a cowboy for a little bit and then he was like trying to be like Rastafarian for like another chapter like a midlife crisis went through like the witchy phase and all these things so I was like oh yeah okay like you know like so we're not having Christmas there then you know it's like what I was getting out of it but then all of a sudden I was like no I learned from from the last one like there's no bypassing that like I want the next person I date to have like a normal family life to some degree normal kind of I think it does say a lot when you have a good relationship with your family and I think something that you brought up before and it like it's such a simple thing but it floored me was one time you said you know you were talking about your past relationship and you were saying you know looking back and thinking about it you're like I was never going to be excited to go spend Christmas with her family I was never going to be excited to and I was like that's such a good point like that's definitely a big red flag right like if you're with someone or dating someone where you know you just know you're going to dread going around their family because their family is super toxic or they don't have a good relationship with their family or whatever whatever the case is yeah um It makes a big difference. It does. You want someone that you enjoy going and spending time with, you know, have a good relationship with their family. Yeah. I mean, like, I was super lucky growing up. Like, both sides of my family, like... you know, yeah, was it hectic on Thanksgiving to like have to leave, like, you know, go and do the early shift with one and the late shift with another? Like, yeah, it was a little crazy. I'm sure my parents were kind of like, you know, oh, that sucks to some degree, but you know what? I would much rather have that kind of suck that like, I don't want to leave this one, but then like end up at the next one and go, man, I wish I was here earlier. You know what I mean? It's like, and have like multiple where you're like, oh, I want to be with both, you know? And I mean, I was lucky enough as a kid to have that. where both sides of my family were so fun and so cool to be around. And I would want my kids to have the same experience. Yeah, absolutely. Especially when thinking toward the future and not having it before with partners, you get to see what really does matter and what you want in the next one. Those family dynamics are really important. I feel you on that. I feel the same way. Okay, I wanted to ask, oh, how did she treat... Because we talked about how important it is and how you can tell a lot about a person of how they treat the waitstaff and when you go eat with someone. Things like that. Like, how was she with that? Was she intentional? Was she... Yeah, no. She absolutely was, like, all about it. Like, she was, like, super, super nice, respectful to, like, our waitress. Like, you know, already knew what she wanted, like, when we got there. Okay, good. Those are little things I pay attention to. Yeah, like, I'm the same way. Like, I'm... And I'm a foodie, too. So, like, if I'm planning on going somewhere, like, I already look at the menu before I go. yeah yeah so like I already kind of have an idea like there might be two or three but I think she kind of was right along the same lines um Okay, this girl doesn't sound that bad to me. No, she wasn't that bad. But, like, then, like, it was just kind of, like, awkward leaving. Like I said, like, literally, like, when the whole, like, astrology thing came up and, like, she, like, literally, it was weird. That was a deal breaker for her. Yeah, I think it was a deal breaker for her. Well, it sounds like she has a lot of trauma attached to that. Oh, absolutely. No, you could tell, like, an hour into this conversation that I was like, you got some shit. Yeah. You know? And I feel like you're not even that, like... On the Richter scale of spiritual, I feel like you are spiritual and I do see a lot of that come out in you and I feel like I've also brought a lot of that out in you. So you are, but you're not like level 10. You're not like way out there. I would not be able to have her over for drinks with us she wouldn't be able to talk to you like you like you would bring i would trigger her you would trigger her so bad oh no okay well so it was that and so will you be going on a second date with her no probably not have you guys been texting um i was a little bit surprised that she texted me after like a couple of days after and was like oh like hey how's your weekend going kind of thing and i was just kind of like is there even potential for like I don't think so. A physical relationship? Probably not. Hey, everybody has needs. I'm the kind of person, though, like, I feel like now... You have to connect intellectually. Yeah, I have to have at least, like, an intellectual, like, connection with you. Like, you can't just purely be physical with me. Okay, got you. And that was not there. Okay. No. Okay. So on to the next. On to the next. So on that topic, I was doing my cousin's hair, um... a couple days ago and she lives out in the bay area and she has been single for about a year now um not going to go too much into her story but she's in her full you guys divine like feminine goddess power like just hair looks amazing yes i did we did 24 inch extensions on her she looks amazing and you know you guys i think after going through like a bad like breakup or divorce or whatever there's like we've talked about it like the post breakup glow up you you know, that happens. So she's lost a bunch of weight, whatever. Also little side note on that one. I don't know if you agree with this, but I believe that when people break up or get divorced or whatever, separate by any means, whether it be situationship or other,

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people that glow up, Are the ones that I truly believe are the ones that are being like held back in the relationship. And I feel like it's like they're finally hitting their full potential. You're right. They're not being weighed down by the other person anymore. I agree. I saw something like that on TikTok where like it said like, you know, like your body can like reject somebody based on like how it works. it lets it see you know what I mean like think about it like when you eat something that you're allergic to or something like that and then all of a sudden you get a bunch of acne it's like same thing like yep if you're eating every meal with somebody that your body is rejecting like you don't get fat like you know yeah Oh, I am in full belief of that. A thousand percent. Down to... I don't know if you guys follow the Trap Witch is her name on Instagram, but she's awesome. She was posting... Trigger warning for the horse trainer. I know, right? Sorry. But no, like it was even saying... Um, and hopefully you guys know this by now, like don't listen to our podcast. If there's children present, like we're going to talk, we're going to speak inappropriately. There's going to be a couple of cuss words, like just FYI. Okay. I put the explicit

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Oh, perfect. Okay. But, um, yeah, so she was talking about how even like certain penises can throw off your pH balance. Like your body's literally rejecting the person. Oh, a hundred percent. So also like, yeah, like when you're intimate with some, somebody that, you know, blend of the, bodily fluids just doesn't mix or they're, you know, it can, your body is telling you something. Well, it's all science. We are truly a, you know, we're, we're a science project with a little bit of miracle in it. You know what I mean? Like, so yeah, like at the end of the day, it likes to be a meme. I mean, that's, that's my political beliefs all in one right there. Yeah. But, um, but yeah, no, literally like that's it. So it's like, absolutely. A hundred percent scientifically. That is true. Yeah, absolutely. And I fully believe that. Like if it don't mix, it don't mix. Yes. So yeah, back to my cousin, basically she lives up in the Bay area. So she's dating She's having fun right now. She told me about this dating app that I want you to go on. What is it? Have you guys heard of this? If you're single, it's called, let's see. It's called field. It's like feel. And then D you need to get on there. Okay. What makes it different? Okay. What makes it different is, so it's basically, it's more geared toward like where you put like, so you do do like a bio about you and stuff like that, but it's also like, more for people that it's like um you put like sexually what you're into kind of yes okay i'm telling you so they'll be like she was showing me hers and talking to me about it she was saying that she's tried all the dating apps all the popular ones you know and she was saying that that one like is the best one like she's met the most amount of people going on the best dates like and mind you like yeah you know you put all your preferences on there of you know what you're into and things like that but there's also just genuinely and like these are people that are in tune with themselves and what they like okay that's what I was gonna say I feel like if you're willing to go through that amount of information and like and you truly know the answers to those things yes like you're probably actually ready to go on that date absolutely you know I'm telling you this she was showing me and telling me about it and I was like and she was just saying too there's like there was way more people on there Like, she got way more... Yeah, and they have, like, a whole section, too, where I didn't even know there were this many, like... You know, it's like, okay... you're into it says what are you into and then it's like girls guys girls and guys and then there's all these other categories like I was like I don't even yeah she was telling me and I was like I don't even know what that means we should have an episode where we like go through like each one and like it's like guess what you think it is oh my gosh yes and it was saying like she was saying it asked you like how you identify and it was all these like you know not the normal straight gay bi it was like all of these like other I'm like It was like cat. Some of it is like too much. Just kidding. Yeah. Some is too much information for me. I know. It's too... It's, yeah, complicated at this point. But that sounds good. But then you can feel that stuff out. Yes. You know? Yes. I'm tired of like the ones that have like weird shit going on popping up on my head. Just like, you're a waste of like... Yeah. So, yeah, maybe we could do an episode. We got to make you a football on there. TBD. Yes. We could do that. Mm-hmm. Maybe I'll... Maybe after this episode, we'll set it up. Yeah.

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I don't know if you know this. Or no, I think you were there. Yeah, you should. Were you there or had you left already when Katie and Justin helped me make my... My hinge. I wasn't there. No. Yeah. They helped me make my hinge profile. And it was like, those are real ones. Get you your good friends to help you. Yeah. Those are, those are real friends. They, they did mine and they like helped me and like use like chat GDP and shit. And honestly, like my hinge is like going off. Well, let me see. I want to read the, let's read your bio. well my bio is nothing crazy because it wouldn't the one that they tried to give me was too long for the you guys this is the modern way of dating this is how you meet people especially when you live in a small town especially when you live in a small town you guys you got to have a dating app and you got to set the location to somewhere else this is how you date now this is how you meet people For those of you that have been married forever. Maybe it wasn't this one. But I set up all my pictures on there. Oh, okay. Check it out. Okay, the first one you're doing like the... What is that? What's the sign? It's a little like rock on. Oh, the rock on sign. Oh, there's a picture of me and you on there. Yeah. And you and Jackie. Oh, and you got the picture from our photo shoot. Okay. Video most likely to win an Oscar. I love that. It's her cheersing our branding shoot. Okay. Love that. Well, tune in next week to hear about Cody's field. profile maybe I'll make one too I don't know you guys I'm in a weird gray area right now with my dating status my relationship status 50 shades of gray oh man JK but maybe yeah so I don't know we'll see but let's uh okay so let's pivot what else is going on in your life right now yeah um you guys let's talk about like diet exercise like healthy lifestyle changes um i'm on that i'm on that path right now for sure um i was one of those gym girlies who would go to work out five days a week but was using it as an excuse to eat whatever the fuck i wanted and i was eating terribly and i finally weighed myself because my clothes weren't fitting right and i gained a bunch of weight so i mean i have a lot of muscle and stuff like that like a lot of people are like oh can't even tell but i could feel it in my body you guys when you're eating crappy food i mean you're just you feel bloated all the time like also the big thing that i've noticed because i've been on a whole diet plan eating super clean for the past this will be the second week now so like only a week and a half the main thing that you notice is like the fog over your mind that goes the brain fog yeah um i also had recently i was doing a lot of coffee, caffeine, and I kind of cut caffeine out almost entirely. Now I'm doing the mushroom coffee. Yeah. It's called everyday dose and it's only 45 milligrams of caffeine. And it's pretty good. I mean, you just made me some right now and you don't taste the difference. And I am like a total corporate coffee whore. Okay. Like I, like I go to either Starbucks or there's a Java express where we live. And I mean, like literally I, I go there probably once, if not twice a day.

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And I've always been crazy caffeine person. So like finding a good alternative to something like that, that'll change your life. It's been a game changer. I've really been thinking about something that you told me the other day, like something that you showed me that said like the worst thing you can do for yourself for your day is like wake up and drink coffee first thing in the morning because something about like dopamine is... Yep. It's like it's terrible for you, literally, because your body's in a fasted state when you're asleep. Actually, the first thing that you need when you wake up is water. That's the first thing that your brain actually needs. Yeah. Caffeine for brain health wise, waking up and putting caffeine in your body is literally the worst possible thing you could do for your brain health. Yeah. I was like watching a podcast about it, but brain health in general. yeah honestly uh it kind of started with switching lowering the caffeine intake doing the mushroom coffee you guys i highly recommend everyday dose 45 milligrams there's a bold version that has 95 milligrams so it's almost like double And I know that doesn't sound like a lot for those of you that drink a lot of caffeine. I was one of those people. But your body acclimates and it still does perk you up. But it has all these other good things in it like the cordyceps and the lion's mane and the reishi and all the things. But, yeah, that's kind of how it started. And then I was feeling bloated all the time. My mind– I don't know how to explain it. It was cloudy. I would say cloudy as in like I– I just, I didn't have a lot of clarity in my head. Like I, I don't know. It was just all the crappy eating. It was doing something to me. So I did a complete 180. You guys, um, shout out chat GPT because I basically got that meal plan. Yep. All I did was wondering, I put in there, I literally put in there like what my issue, this is my weight, this is my height and These are my issues. Like I'm feeling bloated. I'm, you know, all that. I'm like, I go to the gym this many days a week. This is how much cardio, like giving them a whole rundown of like my health and like what my routine is like. And I'm like, this is my goal. I want to lose 20 pounds, but I don't want to lose my curves. I don't want to lose the muscle gains. Right. Create a diet plan for me. So I was very specific. The more specific, the better. And you guys, it created an entire high protein, healthy diet plan for me for seven days. And it even, it was like, do you want a cute PDF, printable PDF? And I'm like, yeah. So it gave me a PDF. I have it on my phone. I also went and printed it out cause I'm extra and I have it like on the inside of my cabinet where all my main food stuff is. And you guys, it's like, I'm telling you guys, I feel like a different person. Wow. I lost five pounds last week just in a week. Wow. That's awesome. Because you guys, I've completely changed my lifestyle. So I highly recommend. We're going to have to do that before I leave because. Okay. I got you. Yeah. The last month of my life, I was feeling really, really snatched for like. I know you were. A minute. Like I was doing good. And then probably the last like three, four weeks, I've totally fallen off. and and it happens and now i'm trying to get it back before we leave oh my gosh guys thank you for the couple of people that did reach out with some help on the whole dmv and passport dilemma people did reach out yeah they really yeah actually i love that and so um Yeah, I used everyone's advice. Thank you so much. It was very, very helpful. And it's in the mail. My passport is in the mail. I should be getting it back any day. Yay! Two weeks to Cabo, you guys. So yeah, thank you guys so much for helping me out with that. Because like I said, I truly didn't think I was going to be able to make it. Sorry, Katie. But no, made it work. And I'm going now. I'm like panic shopping. and I'm probably gonna go to the gym and do some cardio and sit in the sauna for two hours every day for the next two weeks and hope that I get back where I'm supposed to be you will well I'm rubbing I think I rubbed off on her yeah I think so too I'm definitely like I'm not I'm trying not to drink right now I'm on like day three which feels great yeah like absolutely nothing and I know that sounds probably very like minuscule guys but when you work in a bar scene you know it's especially over like a holiday weekend like that's that's hard. That's rough. But there's a lot of A lot of temptation. Absolutely. You're surrounded and working around alcohol all day and people that drink. Yeah. And not only that, I didn't realize until you started bartending how stressful a bartender's job is and how all the different energies of all the people and people being drunk. I mean, it just it's so stressful and overwhelming that at the end of your shift, you need a fucking drink.

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You know, and I get that. So, but yeah, I haven't drank in I think it's been like a week and a half. Yeah, I'm not drinking till we go to Cabo. And I was just telling Cody, like, I don't even know if I want to drink when we're in Cabo. Like, I just feel so good. I definitely owe myself at least one margarita on the beach. But, you know, other than that, I'm totally with you, girl. Like, I... I'm, I'm kind of okay without it. And like, I feel like just more present and like, I want to like be, be present and on that trip and like truly like get the most out of it. That'd be my first time leaving the country. And I want to see it. I want to, I want to, you want to remember it. You want to be there. And when you, when you guys, when we're, when you're drinking, I mean like we all know, like it opens up the door for bad shit to happen. You know, it really does. And you know, it's, I just, do you guys see, like, I don't know if this is just, it can't just be us. Do you guys see all these people that have given up alcohol recently? No, it's huge. It's a huge thing right now. Alcohol's out, you guys. Public service announcement. I'm not saying I'm never going to drink again. I love a good cocktail, but I don't know if you guys have noticed. Alcohol's out. There's tons of alternatives. And guess what? They don't give you a hangover. Yeah. No, absolutely. And even, you know, I mean, that's the business that I'm in, guys. That's the pony I'm selling. But, you know, at the end of the day, like... I remember, you know, being like a kid with, you know, like one uncle that didn't drink and all they had was O'Doul's, you know, there is an alternative. It was that or water, you know, or you got a big old fat, you know, glass of soda. But I'll tell you, like my job right now, there's two shelves full of all different alcohol free alternatives that are different types of beer, different types of seltzers. Obviously, there's so many alternatives to kick back craving or when you do go out with friends or whatever. because you guys can still go out and do stuff. Yeah. You just get one of those. You order one of those and they're delicious. Yeah. One I'm actually drinking right now is called Froth Water. Shout out Alvarado Street Brewery. Alvarado Street. They're the best. And it's sparkling hop water, you guys. So, you know, I'm a big beer drinker and I work at a beer bar. So, you know, having something that's not just soda water, having like a little bit of flavor to it, this having the different types of hops brewed with it, it kind of gives you not necessarily like the illusion that you're drinking beer but it does kind of like a placebo effect right absolutely and that's truly all it is because this doesn't bloat me I could drink like six of these a day just because I'm like ooh sparkling water because it's really just water yeah and I love it it totally is hydrating and all those different things and then it's like in this cool can like people don't know if this is a 12% double IPA or if it's you know a zero calorie zero everything you know sparkling hot water and it's just nice you know because some people like I feel like there's so many people that don't necessarily want to drink but need social interaction yeah absolutely I saw a little snippet of a video this morning actually when I woke up I was kind of scrolling through people's stories and I saw it on someone's that they were talking about how Gen Z like doesn't drink hardly at all okay wait what is sometimes I get confused with this you guys don't judge me what does Gen Z mean we are millennials Oh, okay. Gen Z is the next... It's like the people that are in their 20s right now. Okay, got you. Those are the Gen Zs. So like Gen Zs... um hardly drink at all it's like one out of three or one out of five or something like that like gen z or like drink where us it's like four out of five okay you know um they said that like teen pregnancy is down like all these different like crazy statistics right like people that are people are choosing to not even have kids i have so many clients who are in their late 20s even early 30s that are yeah still don't have kids and don't want so like that's what they said they're like oh like they're healthier they they aren't getting pregnant they aren't I'm doing all these things. And they're like, okay. And the guy that was in the podcast with them, man, I'll have to put it in the notes if I find out where this was. But the guy just said, he's like, well, is that because they're making better, more educated choices? Or is it because they're not socializing? Yeah. Oh, and honestly, I feel like it's probably a combination of both. But sadly, it's probably a lot of the second one. Yeah, because it's like these are the kids that sit at home and do their TikTok or sit at home on their tablets. Like these are all the iPad kids. Yep. And you know, and so like there isn't a lot of social interaction anymore. And that's the part to me, guys, that it's like PSA. Okay, from your favorite bartender. I will tell you, if you do not want to drink and you're trying to be good and you don't want to be tempted, come to my bar. Okay? We make mocktails all day long. And if you're not a mocktail kind of person, you don't want to spend$8 on a mixture of juice, come on out. We have, like, literally two different shelves of different... Brass top. You know, drinks. Yeah. It's called the brass top. Yeah. Come to the brass top. I'm there. And literally, like... That's the thing. Like, just come out. Listen to live music. Meet a stranger. Like, come make friends. You know what I mean? Like, come be social and don't feel like because you're trying to not drink or trying to make better choices that you can't go and still have fun. Yeah. That's my thing is I used to think that way. I used to think that in order to be social that I had to participate in that kind of stuff. It's not true. Yeah. You know? Yeah. I, um, I in the past couple years have, um, multiple times how to reevaluate my relationship with alcohol. It's definitely my vice. That's for sure. And, you know, I'm not an alcoholic by any means, but I like a good cocktail. You know, when the weekend comes, I'm like, okay. But you know what I mean? Yeah. I mean, when the weekend comes around, I'm like, all right, let's go. Let's have a night off. Yeah. Yeah. And I'm not saying I'm never going to drink again, you guys, but when you know there's just there's times and you guys know where you're kind of like i'm just not in that on that journey right now you know what i mean i'm on a different journey and i'll come back to it later or i want to take a break because i just want to reevaluate reevaluate my relationship with it you know what i mean where it's kind of like you know you don't want to become too dependent on something to de-stress or whatnot right like you want to have You know, when I need to de-stress now, it's like I go to the gym, I meditate, I go to yoga, or I do, there's other things, you know? Well, it just, the course of your day is a lot different when you... Um, even from my own experience, you know, my day is different when I blow off steam at the gym or at Pilates versus so much more productive. Yeah. Versus like going, going to, you know, my favorite bar before something, before I know I'm going to go and have a stressful day or something like that. And being like, I'm just going to go have a beer with lunch and like mellow out. Like, no, like, you know, like that's great. And like that will have its day in the sun. But yeah. Is it, am I 10 times more productive? and in a better mood and all those different things. If I go to the gym before or sit in the sauna for a little bit or go to Pilates, like absolutely. Yeah, and the way that you build self-confidence and worthiness you guys is by keeping the promises that you made to yourself so a lot of times we make these promises to ourself like I'm gonna work out four days this week I'm gonna go to Pilates three times this week I'm gonna you know whatever it is right and then let's say you go out for one drink with a friend well one drink turns into five we know we've all we've all been there I've done it plenty of times um so you guys know what I'm talking about and then it's like then you miss that workout then you Then you're hung over the next day. Then you're unproductive that day. Then you guys, from my understanding, one night of drinking, it takes like a full six days for that to completely even come out of your system. So for a lot of people, they're already drinking again by the time they're barely feeling better from the fog, from the alcohol and the dehydration and all the things of how it impacts us. So yeah, so I mean, you guys know how that is, right? Yeah, you're going to develop a lot more self-respect for yourself and a lot more worthiness and just happiness in general by keeping these promises that you make to yourself.

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I think that's the path that I'm on right now. For sure. I'm trying to keep these promises that I made to myself. You would be proud of me. The other night, I totally did not want to go out after one of my shifts. And a couple of my coworkers were like, no, let's go. We're going to go to Whiskey Creek and go play pool. blah blah blah and I'm like nope I'm not going and they're like one drink one drink and I'm like no like it's never one drink like it never is it's 2 a.m. you know like you guys we know damn well yeah how many times have you guys gone out for one drink and one drink turned into five yeah or one drink turned into an almost all-nighter. Yeah. Or a late night. 2 a.m. tacos at Las Cuartas. Yep. You know. Yeah. You know. But no, you'd be proud. Okay. I literally, I went because I lost a bet that went on throughout the rest of that shift. But I went and I actually stuck to the one beer and literally sat there and had water the rest of the night. And I was just like, just to prove a point, like not only like to myself, but like to them too. Like, hey guys, like one beer like means one beer. Yeah. And if I don't want to go next time, I'm not going to go. Yeah. But what I will say is like literally that night was so much fun oh that's the other thing literally the best times are when you're not drinking you ever notice that no like there's some fun times when you are yeah guys come on i'm not gonna completely discredit wrong but the best honestly no or when I wasn't drinking this was like one of those days which I feel like lately I've had a lot of these where it was just like one of those that I'm like oh if a year ago somebody told me like that this is how I was going to be spending this Thursday I'd be like what the fuck like you know what I mean like I would be like what kind of fucking witch are you yeah like you know but no literally we went and I went and had one beer you know out there with like my co-worker and we started playing playing pool and um one of my exes was there not like obvious this is like a from the past past and we're friends you know and whatever and anyway her her mom was there with like her mom's best friend and everything right and she's like coming over and her mom is like you know hey like you know who's playing pool on this table you know and I'm like oh we just started a game like this I'm gonna put my quarters on there I'm like okay you know go for it like you know and um And so, you know, she, like, did her thing or whatever. Well, it turns out the guy that we were supposed to be playing against, like, didn't have a partner. His partner didn't want to play, whatever. Yeah. So you ended up playing your exes. So then, like, she ended up playing, and then we were, like, playing doubles. Then she wanted to play again, but the people we were playing with didn't want to. So then her and I ended up playing just against each other, just her and I. And it was the best. We ended up playing, like, four games. Oh, my gosh. And I had the time of my life. I love that. I was, like– and so did she– And I was just like, and literally like, this is the ex's mom, right? Yeah. You know what? There's something about you guys. I vibe better with older people. Oh yeah. Honestly, there's like, I'm an old soul. I think I know you're an old soul also. We're some old souls. Couple of old souls. You guys relate. I've always gotten along. Couple of old souls doing some thought shit, you know, pop off. yeah don't come for me don't come for me if you see me having a drink in Cabo you guys I may I may but yeah no literally that was like the best time and I at one point like even like looked over at my ex and I was like hey like if somebody told you a year ago like this is how you'd be spending this Thursday like would you believe them and she was like fuck no like but like we were all having so much fun and I was just like that's what life's about being present and having fun man yeah it's just so weird where life takes you you know and like the people that come back in and out in different like seasons you know yeah that's so true yeah rip up whatever plan you made for yourself you guys fuck god in the universe has its own plan for you it doesn't care about your plan so you might as well just say fuck the plan and go with the flow fuck the plan go to Pilates no but yeah no good times so weird I've had weird last like 10 days you really have someone definitely Somebody had my voodoo doll in their pocket. Poking the shit out of it. Taking it around, you know. Yeah. But good times. Anyway, I'm happy that we're on the downhill right now. We're like just chilling. I feel like everything is way positive right now. Knock on wood. I feel that way. Yeah. And yeah, we're just like. In cruise control right now, getting ready for what Cabo has to offer. Yes. I'm so excited for that trip. It's going to be so much fun. I'm so excited. So, so excited. All right. Well, I think this is all we got for you guys this week. Hope you enjoyed it. As you know, either listen for the lesson or listen for the tea. Yep. Or the tea. Either or. Or both. All right. See you guys next week. See you next week. Deuces.