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Hey guys, welcome to the Unengaged Podcast. We have your host Cody and Kaylee here. How's it going? Dude, the hangover is real. Oh man. It's been what, a week? About a week since our trip and it's been a whirlwind of a week since we've been back. Yeah, I feel like I have had post-trip like anxiety, hangover, but like also like post-trip bliss too. Yes. Is that a thing? If it's not, it should be. Yeah. I feel like my personality has changed since we left. Like that was like the healing kind of like trip that I needed, you know? Yeah. Same for me. Like we're talking about Cabo, obviously you guys, um, but anybody who's asked me about it, like how it was, um, I like pause before I start to tell them about it. I take a deep breath, like this deep breath of like relief and I smile and I literally tell people that that was the best trip I've ever been on. Same, same. And I mean, you know, I've gone on a lot of trips, a lot of like group trips, girls trips, family trips, like all those different things. And I will say this has probably been like in my top five, like ever. And like just the group of people that we went with all so awesome. The people that we met on the trip were awesome. Like Just the vibes were so high. Man. Really, there was like, gosh, it was just so much fun. Like, I would do that again. 10 out of 10 like literally I want to do it again already yeah no I think I said it too where I was like can we do this quarterly like yeah and yeah every six months yeah seriously come back in August yeah no this resort you guys where we went um the Rio Santa Fe right on the beach in Cabo San Lucas amazing amazing views amazing resort I mean it was an all-inclusive so if you haven't done all-inclusive you guys it was my first time I was pleasantly surprised like It was so, so awesome. She was really nervous about going to Mexico too, which I remember being the same way when I first went. I've been there like six, seven times now, but I remember feeling the same exact way because you hear so many bad things that you're like, is it safe? Is it safe? I think that's everyone's concern when they... before they first go no seriously I had a lot of anxiety leading up to it and was very like you know just it was my first time leaving the country as you guys know like from the whole passport dilemma like I was not I think that was another piece is that mentally I wasn't quite sure if I was going to go or not so really didn't put a lot of stock into it and like thinking about that until the very last minute yeah and maybe that was one of the reasons but yeah once we got there and we were like at the resort I think like everything was you felt safe I felt very safe very relieved and then obviously the people that we were with I felt really protected I really did too by the people we were with yeah no it was really nice I mean I was like you know you hear like you go to these resorts and people like rob your room or whatever so I'm like our wallets and our passports went into our friend's husband's safe and I'm like you're in charge sir like and it was great so yeah no it was an amazing amazing time I mean swim up bars and infinity pools next to the beach like say less how can you complain about that but well not only that it was we went for our friend's birthday and her husband planned everything to a tee shout out you know who you are yeah man I need one what a man what a mighty good man I need one of those in my life oh yeah you guys he surprised all of us at the airport we didn't even know with a stretch limo that was stocked with champagne and good music and drinks it was just the thoughtfulness was on 10 like there was nothing that we had to think about no we were able to i know you guys have heard me talk about in previous dating episodes um about how i like to turn my brain off like especially when i'm dating and stuff but obviously this was a trip, but we were able to do that on this trip because our friend's husband literally thought of everything. I mean, he made us feel so taken care of and there was nothing that we had to plan or do. It was just, it was an amazing time and just shout out to you. You know who you are, but, um, literally the best time. I mean, we went, what the second day we went on a catamaran to go snorkeling. And I mean, you guys, if you haven't been to Cabo and like been in that area where we were it's like right where like the cruise ships come up I don't know what the Madonna Beach Madonna Beach but I mean they just have these awesome like rock formations like mountains just in the arch in the middle of the cove over there you know in the bay and it is just the most beautiful scenery in the world and you know we got right up close and personal on this beautiful boat we were in the ocean actually me and our friend's husband we were the only ones that were brave enough to go in the water was a little choppy It was a little windy that day, but it was warm. It was like in the 80s. It was awesome. I mean, you just had to, right? We came, we saw, we conquered. Absolutely. And he took care of all that for us. He set it up. He took care of it. You guys, the whole time, he literally would just not even let us give him money. All we had to do was just get ready and show up. Just be there at this time. And man... I just, I don't know. I'm just, I love that. I love that. Cause how often, I mean, how often do we get to do that? No, it was definitely a once in a lifetime kind of trip. And we had a great time in, at the resort and all the pools at all the restaurants there. We just did it up and just felt so free and able to kind of just come and go as we please and do everything that we wanted to do and hang out with all the people we wanted to hang out with. I went out on a jet ski, fell off into the ocean twice. Yeah. That looked amazing by the way. I know at the point that you guys left and did that, I was definitely taking way too advantage of the poolside bar, the all-inclusive. So I'm like, I shouldn't be operating machinery at this point in the day. But I definitely had FOMO where I was like, I wish I would have done that. But yeah, no, that looked like an amazing time, like an amazing experience. That was amazing. Literally jet skiing around like cruise ships and stuff that were out there that were humongous and... um, falling into the water, getting a little bit of anxiety. Cause I'm like, I don't know what's under me right now. And the jet ski had kind of like went off in a distance, but luckily I was someone that helped make me feel safe. No, that's, that's definitely, um, You know, that's always the thing when you feel like you're like taken care of out there. Another thing where you're like, I'm good. Like I'm taken care of. Like the jet ski will find its way back to me. You know, I just have to tread water in my life jacket. This is great. But yeah, no, it was awesome. We had a great time. And yeah, we ended it with this amazing, amazing dinner at this restaurant called Rosa Negra. Yeah. And oh my God, you guys. I mean, again, I've been to some amazing restaurants in my life. and had some amazing experiences but this place was 10 out of 10 vibes it wasn't just food it was the music it was the entertainment that the same owner that owns it i believe owns taboo nightclub in tulum yeah and you guys were telling you all these things too that way like if this is your sign if you've been thinking about going to mexico or taking a vacation going to an all-inclusive this is your sign to do it and now you guys know where to stay and some of the spots to go to and what to do yes right exactly no in this restaurant you guys it was a full experience vibe like I'm talking you're you come in you sit down all the the waiters waitresses everybody they're dressed up to a tee like beautiful people like there's not an ugly person on this stuff and that of course helps in every way shape or form but they also had like a really really good talented DJ that was like playing all these amazing jams like just you know how it is like those favorite songs that everybody knows the words to but Like mixing them in a modern way. Yes. And then they also had a live drummer there that was just going nuts on there. And they had fire dancers. They had firework sparklers. If you guys saw our little video that we put out. Sweet Caroline. Yeah. Yeah. No, they gave us all sparklers. I'm telling you, this is definitely not legal in the United States. This would have not been up to fire code. But they gave everybody these little, you know, like... the like cold fire like sparklers and i mean this place was going nuts we would have burned the roof off if there was one yep that's the other thing is the entire roof to this restaurant was open and you could just see the stars and the moon and it was just it was such a vibe so beautiful and the food was excellent and i just can't say enough like how amazing this trip was yeah um it was awesome i don't remember the limo ride to back to the airport well but i hear it was a great time I know like we kind of talked about how you were like wanting to channel main character energy because like in a sense you were kind of like fuck like I don't really feel like I'm the main character in my life right now like the way that certain things had been going and just the place that you were in and and um and I feel like you were able to do that on the last day the day we were leaving you were like today is my day I woke up you guys and I chose main character oh yeah you did you selected it everybody was packing and doing all kinds of things trying to relax on the last day and I was like nope we paid for this last day I'm getting my money's worth oh yeah she was in the pool she met some people she was playing beer pong I was the first one in the pool oh yeah we were like sitting on the sidelines like in our travel clothes like with our stuff packed like we're just killing time and Cody's over here like no no no I'm making the most of every dang second that we have left here I at some point I think I was in what two or three different pools that day the last one we were in I met a group of like younger like Canadian people and they had never played flip cup before and so I just felt it was my duty as an American to teach them what that was and we had a great time and hopefully I set them up for a good rest of their day I think I'm sure you did yeah I did yeah but yeah if you guys haven't played beer pong in a pool next to an all-inclusive you know bar oh man yes you have to do it have to try 10 out of 10 recommend I really enjoyed like watching you that day though like me and Katie both. We really did. I had a blast. We were like, we were like, we love this for Cody. Like we're not going to partake in this, but we're going to like sit on the sidelines and just watch her. We're going to, we're going to hold her passport and wheel her bag in and just make sure she gets through security. Thank you for that. Because literally it was awesome. Got through customs somehow. I don't know. All I can say is that by the time that we got home to the States after a three hour flight and a two hour drive home I was still wet from the pool so it was uh I conquered the day it was cool you did it was definitely an experience yeah I hope you guys um this summer can take some time to travel because that was just such a major reset and I don't know if you guys can reflect back if you guys have you guys ever had a trip like that like have you ever had a trip that was like almost like life changing. I don't know how to explain it. You guys, the bonds that we created with, there was people that we had just met on that trip. Also that where our friends were our friends, friends. So we had just met them. And like, I feel like we've gained friends for life. Like it was just the absolute best vibes. And yeah. Yeah. Yeah. It was so, it was our friend's birthday trip and she's married. So her husband brought like three of his really good friends. And so, you know, um, it was cool. because obviously we all somehow kind of knew each other as acquaintances but really got close on this trip and it was really really nice really bonding like it almost was like a mini like um like real world have you ever do you remember the real world like where it's like a bunch of strangers that like go and like they're like rooming together and then they kind of like bond and everything I feel like that was us for like or like maybe like Jersey Shore you know I didn't want to throw us completely out there but yeah we were definitely channeling some season one Jersey Shore vibes um which I'm not mad at and I would definitely do it again holy crap like I think the group that we traveled with was definitely something we could do a couple of seasons of Jersey Shore kind of vibe trips with and I can't wait for the next one I know actually I think this is the first episode that we've done where we don't have a planned trip coming up well I do but we don't you do not together damn you gonna surprise my son my daughter will be out of town she'll be in another state but I'm going to surprise my son with a trip to the Bahamas we're going to take a cruise just him and I yeah I'm excited we're going to go next month so I'm not going to tell him either I'm just going to wake him up that morning have everything packed and then tell him we're going to go but I'm not going to tell him like leading up to it so I'm going to surprise him I want it to be a core memory yeah That's amazing. That will be such an experience for both of you. Honestly, that's awesome. I can't wait for you to go and do that. It's going to be such a fun experience. Thank you. I'm excited. Yeah. No, I mean, traveling, you guys, it's so underrated, I feel like. And a lot of people, I feel like it's sometimes hard to take the time, whether it be away from work or pausing other things going on in your life to kind of take the time to go and reset yourself and have a little bit of fun somewhere that's not in your backyard. But it's so worth it. And if you have friends that are down to go and do that with you or family that's down to go and do that with you, like take advantage because life's short. Absolutely. I agree. I feel like it's kind of one of those things, right? Like that we put off or we say, oh, next year. Oh, I got to save more. Oh, I don't, you know, I work. I feel like we tend to do that a lot too with like certain self-care things where we put ourselves on the back burner and, oh, I'll do that another time. Or, you know, I'll take that hike another, you know, another time, whatever it is, right? All the things that we've been like wanting to do. but um Man, it's just it's so nice when you are just like, you just you just got to do it. Yeah, can't overthink it. If you overthink it, you overthink yourself into not doing it. Absolutely. And I almost did it. Honestly, guys, like, like I said, like, you know, Kaylee mentioned at the beginning, like I had some major, major anxiety, leaving work, you know, leaving everything else that I kind of had going on at home to go and do this. And then even just the anxiety of going on this trip where we're going somewhere new, I'd never been that wasn't familiar to me. me, being an overthinker, being very, um, type a, it was, it was hard for me to kind of leave it and not really know what we had going on. But again, leading, like looking back now, hindsight, the fact that this was somewhere I had never been, the fact that I didn't have to know everything that was planned. I didn't have to plan anything myself literally was what made the trip as great as it was. Yeah. You know, absolutely.

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Yeah.

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I wonder how many things that we've over, cause we're both over thinkers. We've talked about it a lot on here, but, and I'm sure a lot of other people can relate to, you know, um, I wonder how many things we've overthought out of ourselves out of doing that would have been great. Had we done it, even this could. apply to relationships, like maybe shots we didn't take with people. Absolutely. Um, just, well, they say that, you know, like the best growth comes right outside your comfort zone, you know? And like, that's exactly it. Like same thing. Like, you know, it's finding that job that you aren't sure that you're qualified for, or, you know, getting with that person that isn't usually your type or, you know, isn't something that you're used to, like all those things. It just totally exactly right. Like right outside your comfort zone, trying something new, not overthinking it. I think that's the one thing I'm going to take away from this trip. Yeah. Is just kind of like let go. Yeah. You know, and let go and don't over, don't overthink it. allow your mind to talk you out of doing something that could potentially be great yeah exactly just let it let things happen and see where it goes you know because again at the end of the day we've said this a million times too like throw your plans out the door like universe god whatever you believe in like there's already a plan for you yeah so yours can you know they're cute but it ain't gonna work out you know yeah sometimes you gotta just roll with things i feel like the less resistance that you have to life in general like anytime i was in a place where i didn't have resistance to any For instance, this trip, I was just there to have a good time. I didn't know what the plan was. I didn't know, you know, it was just like, I'm going to show up and I'm going to have a good time. The less resistance that resistance that you have, the better of a time that you have. Yep. No, exactly. I'm trying so hard to kind of apply that to my life right now in so many different aspects where I'm just kind of like, you know what, like. let it let it ride like whatever happens happens try not to over over complicate things overthink things over plan yeah you know and just kind of like let it go um and see where things go you know see how good things can be yeah like let you know it's like let life surprise you right i think me and you are in a similar place as far as like right now we may not know at one point we knew what our futures look like or we thought we did right we had a certain vision for how our future would is going to look in our lives. And then right now, I think you and I are kind of both in a place where we don't necessarily know what our futures look like or who's going to be a part of that future. But I think that, um, if you do it right, it can be that, that also is an exciting thing. It doesn't have to make you anxious or make you overthink or make you get like, give you anxiety that like, Oh, I don't know where my life is going. I don't know what I'm doing. I don't. Cause I know we've, we've both kind of felt that. Absolutely. But I literally posted something today that like, is that exact thing? Like I, let me see. I'm going to try and see if I can find it. I posted it, like all my story on TikTok. Yeah. But it's so true, right? It's like there's also a level of excitement that comes along with when you're on this path, you think you know where you're going, you fall off, you take a different path, and you don't necessarily know where that road leads. Yeah. I think that there's a level of excitement to that. I mean, and then just... I think the less resistance that we have, the more we roll with things and just the more open-minded we remain, like we can kind of allow life to surprise us. Yeah, exactly. So like this post, it basically says like, you know, there's a level of grief that no one prepares you for grieving the version of your life that you thought you'd have. Um, this person that posted this and I shared their posts, she said like, I'm 34. I was soft. I had plans. I didn't see any of this coming. And like, I miss her, even though I had to leave her behind you know but like basically talking about her old version of herself and I feel like you and I have kind of gone through that you know where we've like had to grieve like the old versions of what we thought we would be at this point but at the same time like I think obviously not every day is a good day not every regardless of where you are if you followed the plan or not but it's just kind of like looking around and going okay like this is who I'm supposed to be right now yeah like I'm like I am not... Maybe I'm not where I thought I'd be, but somebody up there does have a plan. Yeah. And, you know, I'm where I'm supposed to be. Exactly. Like, I... Right now, like, if you told me two years ago that... like my life would be what it is if somebody showed me a preview of the last 30 days and was like this is where you're at I'd be like what the hell yeah that's not on the script yeah but at the same time like I'm having a great time and like I'm happy and like I'm like finding myself doing things that I didn't know I was capable of and really like tapping into a different you know side of me you know and I am just loving it and again like this trip was such I love that. Yeah. Reset for your mindset. I agree. It did the same thing for me.

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It's been fun. I think even coming back to work afterwards, I was just kind of like, all right, I'm ready to go. Let's do it. And I've been having so much fun. Like I said, what you tapped into, the resistance of things. Every single day that I've been back, there has been something good going on. And who knows? Maybe it's just the fact that everyone's like, hey, weren't you in Mexico? How was it? Did you have fun? Maybe it's the tan. I don't know. But I feel like there's just a lot of positive vibes coming towards me. Yeah. And I'm loving it. I did have a really funny thing happen the other day at work that I wanted. I've been waiting to tell you this. Okay. Embarrassing story from Cody right here. Just a little tidbit. So again, like I said, having all this main character energy, right? So here I am at work. And I work at a bar, guys, if you're tuning in for the first time. whatever anyway I'm at work it's Saturday night and there's this girl sitting like at a table like across and who knows maybe she listens to our podcast she apparently knows more about me than I do oh gosh um but anyway shout out to you you're gonna laugh at this um but yeah so anyway so this this girl gorgeous girl sitting at this table over here and she like talks to one of my friends that's like a server right and so like she comes over um my friend and I was like hey I was like do you know that girl over there like you know that just said hi to you or whatever like do you have her table and she's like yeah I have her table I'm like yeah she's super cute like what's her story like do you know her know her and she's like yeah she goes actually like she's into girls like you should like go like you know I'll go over there and like see what's up and I was like make sure she's not on the date right now yeah because I was like kind of like sizing up the other person at the table and I'm like uh I don't know like you know I'm like just make sure like go see if she's single like see What's up? And she goes, all right, I'm going to go over there. I'm going to go see if she's single. And then like, you should like send her a shot or something. I was like, all right, cool. So here, my friend goes shooting your shots. Yeah. Shooting my shots. And, um, so anyway, so she goes over to the table, ask the girl, like talk to her. Sure enough, she's single. And she's like, so my friend's trying to tee it up. Right. And she's like hitting it all. Right. And she's like, oh, cool. She's like, um, one of the bartenders like wants to buy you like a shot. Like, what do you, what do you want? And she goes, oh, like, I'll do like a Mexican candy shot, like blah, blah, blah. And she's like, cool. Yeah, the bartender, like she makes them the best, right? Which, by the way, is not the honest truth. That's not the honest truth. That's actually the one shot I make the least best. Shout out to Frenchie. She actually makes those ones the best. So if you ever need a Mexican candy shot at our bar, make sure she's working and not me. But anyway, as the server is sitting there at the table, she's like, oh, she goes, is it Cody?

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Yeah.

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and she's like yeah like you know her and she goes actually she's like yeah I do know her like she used to talk to my sister and I'm like you know so anyway so she comes back and she's like so I guess you used to like talk to her sister or something and I was like what like who's her sister and then she's like saying like names and like it was not the right name that she told me but she was like describing this girl to me and like describing like her whole situation and I was like I don't even know who you're talking about. Yeah. Like this is like, I'm having like full on like amnesia. Like I don't, I'm like, I don't remember ever talking to her sister. Apparently I did. And apparently this is like somebody that I would like, you know, had a crush on in high school. I thought we were just really good friends and like would text a lot. I didn't know that this girl was a lesbian, quite honestly, until she married a woman like 10 years later. Oh, okay. So then I realized that apparently we were talking for like a year and I didn't know. Yeah. I'm like, Should have told me, but whatever. Anyway, that happened. And then communication. So important when you're dating. Oh God. So literally then my friend, the server goes back to the table and is like, so tell me again, like who your sister, like she's trying to like, we're like doing this whole thing back and forth. Cause I'm like, who are we talking about? And then she starts describing her and everything. And she's like, yeah, like this girl was married. Then she wasn't. And then like, she started talking to her again. And I'm like, what? Like, you know, and I'm like, what? Like, I'm like, I couldn't figure it out. Okay. Then it finally comes to me and I'm like, okay, now I know who she's talking about. And I'm like, I didn't. I didn't go after her, like after her divorce, but one of my like best friends did. And it was kind of like on the low. And mind you, I talked to her about it this morning and I brought it up. So she knows who she is too. When she listens to this, she'll laugh. But I'm like, dude, I, that was not me. Like, I'm like, you're the one that flew like out of state to go and see this girl. Like not me. What the hell? And then, yeah. So then I guess that happened. And then I guess she told her that like, Like I matched with her on like some dating site and like tried to talk to her too. And I'm like, I didn't think I'd ever seen you in my life. So apparently. People could look very different in pictures. Especially with all the filters. Dude, apparently I was having some crazy amnesia. I did not remember this entire thing, but my friend who's a server was coming back and she was telling me all these things about myself that I had no idea about. And I'm like, God, like to this girl, like I seem like such a little like fuck boy. I'm just trying to be nice and buy the girl a shot. Jesus Christ. Isn't it crazy to think that like also different versions of us live in people's heads? Seriously, no, like I literally was so mortified. I was mortified when I heard this. I was like... You're like, I didn't even know this about myself. Yeah, I'm like, I did not even know that somebody in the world thought of me this way. Yeah. Literally. And there's probably like multiple... you know, versions that different people, like how they think we really are, who we are, and they have no idea. Yeah. I'm like, oh my gosh. And just again, one of those things like where, you know, if you really don't know somebody, you guys, like, or you hear, if you live in a small town or like a, you know, you hang out in a smaller community where you hear all these things about people and you kind of already have a prefix idea of who they are, like a first impression without really having a first impression take the leap like find out for yourselves because I swear to God I am not that much of an asshole yeah and I've probably changed quite a bit since the first little go around here and I'm like we deal with a lot of that shit here too like people tend to like just judge or think that they know you because they've heard certain things about you and it's like dude like that's that's the old me or that whatever like That what you heard happened 15 years ago. I'm a completely different person now. You're like, I've changed personalities three times since then. Yeah. It's, it's fine. I've upgraded multiple times. I just like, I was just thinking to myself like about that, like after like that whole encounter and just being like, at first I was pretty embarrassed and was just kind of like, damn, like, the old me like fucked up that chance for like me right but then I kind of thought about it and I was like like did I fuck that up for me or like

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some divine intervention like yeah

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or are like are those people fucking up for themselves that like they're gonna let that impression like live rent free in their mind of me without actually getting to know me for who I am

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yeah you

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know what I mean or like just giving me like an honest

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shot I wonder

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how

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many people have

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been interested in us but because of like maybe certain things that they've heard about us from our haters yeah I'm like that they haven't given it a chance. It's crazy. yeah see for me I don't do that I don't judge people based off of what I hear um I sometimes I feel like I should but you know like there's a healthy that was right there's a there's a healthy medium of that but yeah like you were saying you know it's like we should like develop your own conclusion about people yeah yeah don't judge off of what you hear I mean you might end up unengaged but but at least you you know you found out for yourself right yeah exactly you know you have to do that yeah No, that whole interaction, dude, I was like, wow, that's crazy. That is crazy. I'm like, you really get to hear, like, I'm like, I wonder what would happen if one day, like 10 years from now, there was like an app where you could like... see like all the group chats that you're mentioned in you know like oh that would be so cool you're like see what other people like have to say like you know or like see what um what they've screenshotted like of yours whether it be photos on your social media platform I can't wait does that already exist I'm sure somewhere it probably does you probably have to pay for it I don't know DM us the the app if you guys know of one yeah seriously I know that like one thing I really really wish that we had was if you could see who shares your content. Like, have you ever noticed that? I hate how it'll say like, okay, you have 15 people shared this, but you can't, like on Instagram, you can't view who shared it. I'm like, I want to know. Like, there's like some things, like especially over a trip, I did kind of like post something a little spicy. And there was one share. And I'm like, I kind of have an idea where that would have gone. Like, you know? And I'm like, I kind of want to know, like, if my inclination was correct. Like, you know, but... Yeah. I try my damnedest to not give things like that energy. I definitely try to just be like, whatever. Yeah. Whatever, man. You know, some things are done on purpose. But I mean, again, things like that could all, like as cool as it would be, it would probably be a little dangerous. Do you remember on like Snapchat when we were in high school when you could see other people's best friends? No. Were you ever on that? I'm not like a huge, I don't have Snapchat. I'm not a huge Snapchat person. This was like when we were like in high school. Oh, okay. And like when Snapchat was like first. That's dangerous. Oh, yeah. No, that like ruined relations. like I'm not gonna lie like like basically who you're snapping the most right you could social media gets you caught up if you're if you're one of those people that's cheating on your wife cheating on your husband or girlfriend boyfriend whatever doing some shady shit Be careful. Just like how Instagram rolled out that thing where if somebody comments on a picture that you post on your story, the comment comes up on there. Oh, I think there's still a lot of people that don't know that that's there. Yeah, I'm pretty sure they don't. Yeah. I'm like, I've seen a couple where I'm like, ooh. Yeah. You've been caught, sir. PSA. But yeah, no, Snapchat was crazy like that. Like I had one of my best friends in high school, she literally would like randomly call me and be like, I need you to Snapchat me as much as possible in the next five minutes. because so-and-so is now all my best friends. Oh, no. And I would be like, okay, I got you, girl. And, like, we would just be Snapchatting each other, like, random shit back and forth just so that, like, we could kick that person off the bottom. Oh, that is so funny. But now it kind of... They don't have that anymore, right? No, they don't have that anymore. The closest thing they have to it is, like, there's an emoji next to, like, all of your best friends, but it's only for yourself, right? Now there is another emoji that will show if you have a mutual best friend with somebody. Okay. so like for instance like I recently see I don't like Snapchat I don't so Snapchat is so shady I'm sorry it is it is a little shady like I had one right now where like there was like somebody I'm like been chit chatting with on Snapchat whatever and like we have a mutual like best friend on Snapchat so I'm like I'm looking through all my best friends on there who at this point are truly some of my best friends yeah and I'm like which one of you is Snapchatting this person like I'm like I can't fit them in like into any of those like lines and I'm like I don't want to ask so like she's basically probably sending that person the same stuff I think so and I'm like what's happening okay snapchat to me if a guy has snapchat honestly that's a huge red flag to me because I feel like that is total shady I don't know I just I don't trust it I don't like it I don't have it I haven't had it in years I redownloaded it once I was like single you know and like pretty much there was a couple of things that like I deleted while I was in my relationship that I brought back up that was one of them yeah but again that's the first thing that'll go the second that like I am dating somebody yeah like I will that's the first one yeah because again like you said there's probably a bunch of stuff on there yeah what would you say is the second one what would you say is the second worst one for like you know like if you know like I would say probably Instagram I think so too Instagram for sure I think that at the beginning like Instagram was very telling and very transparent I feel like that There's a lot of different ways that people hide things on there now. I agree. Yeah, there's a lot of features that they've rolled out that make it really easy for people to hide shit. Yeah, and I don't love it. Like, I don't love Instagram for that reason when I'm in a relationship. Yeah, when you're in a relationship, that's what we're talking about. Like, now I'm like... Slide in. Okay. Slide in the DM, baby. But, yeah, no. It's very easy to see things. I mean... And it's very easy to hide things unless you're with somebody that is a certified FBI agent or you have a friend that is that way. Don't try and hide anything from me, guys, because I will find you. Oh, my gosh. Yeah, I'm not going to lie, you guys. In the past, she has helped me out. She's helped me find people. She's helped me find deleted messages on phones that are not Apple phones. I don't know about you guys, but I'm an Apple girlie, so when I get my hands on a Samsung or an Android Also, if you have an Android phone, red flag. Yeah, that's a red flag, too. Add that to the list. Don't slide in my DMs if you're going to text me with your little green bubbles. I don't want it. I agree. No, thank you. Nope. But yeah, I mean, who even knows how to work that thing, you know? You get in there and you're like, how do I navigate this? But you've helped me navigate through some things in the past. Oh, yeah. Where you're like, there's a deleted section. Yeah. I don't know if you guys know that, but on iPhone, too, there's a deleted. Oh, I actually just found a different feature on iPhone that will show you some crazy ass shit oh you can show it to me yeah I'll show it to you after and I will tell you that even if it's deleted I'm just curious out of the recently deleted all those things I I found a new feature that will show you whatever the fuck you want to see oh it'll show you top conversations it'll show you all those different things and I actually stumbled across this she's such an investigator you guys this this one found me this feature found me guys and I will say It was like an ad on TikTok? No. No. I found this because of the podcast. Because I was trying to delete... everything I possibly could off of my phone because these these files are so big and the videos are so big that I was trying to like make storage room on my phone and I was looking up different ways to like try and like efficiently delete certain things that were like high quality like whatever you know high it took up a lot of gigabytes yes that's what I was trying to say because your memory is always and all of a sudden it was like oh like go into your service like your settings and go into message messages or photos and but you can go into messages and it'll show you all the top conversations so the conversations that are holding the most gigabytes on your phone and from there it literally shows a list and I was like one it was very interesting to me that I was like oh like those are the people that I talk that I talk to the most or that I have the most photos or files or all those different things and I was like oh shit like there were some people on there that I was like wait so did it even show like the people that they're the conversation that you've deleted? Yeah, it'll show that stuff on there. Yeah, there was some on there. Actually, how I realized that that was what it was is because my conversation between me and my ex was still on there. Oh, wow. But it was on the cloud, so it was like our old text message thread. Oh, because of the cloud, it lives in the cloud. Yeah, it lives in the cloud, rent-free. But yeah, so there was that, and there was a bunch of old photos, videos, whatever that were saved in that conversation that I deleted off my phone, but it was on my cloud taking up space. And so I finally deleted, deleted it. Us leaking this information is going to get some of you shitty bastards caught up. I hope so. I hope so. There needs to be more single women in this fucking area. I know. Wow. That's your game plan here. That's my plan. Yeah. going in from the inside. No, but yeah, if you guys ever need somebody to investigate something, call me. You should be a private investigator. Oh, I could be. Remember that show Cheaters? That's what I was going to say. I could picture you doing that. I could be like Cheaters or the guy from Catfish. Yeah. Oh yeah. I could be that guy. You totally could. Yeah, you could. Oh yeah. I'll find you. I will find your shit. But yeah, so I don't know. That's pretty much all I have for this week. Same. I'm like sorry if this was kind of a boring episode or if you got anything out of it I hope you did but yeah I think that we're just in that post vacation bliss bubble and we're just still on vacation mode you guys I hope it's a sign for you guys to take that vacation to travel this summer do something for yourself and travel with your friends guys travel with your friends because I'll tell you those friendships really deepen when you spend that amount of time with each other you know the right yeah and honestly it'll tell you who your friends are and who your friends aren't right when you find yourselves spending four solid days together instead of just a couple of nights on the weekends out at bars or doing whatever it is that y'all do together like when it's you know when you've been together for 48 hours straight or longer you really get to find out like who and how everybody is and that's where you find the ones that you keep and you know vice versa so honestly I had a great time and it was just so much fun so yeah Yeah. All right. Well, that's it for us this week. You guys hope you enjoyed our episode. And again, if you guys have anything that you want us to touch on, um, let us know. We're also going to be bringing on some guests here pretty soon. So if you have anybody that you want to hear from or like hear us like interview or talk to, let us know. Yeah. If you're interested in being a guest to DM us on Instagram, unengaged podcast. All right. That's all we got. Thanks guys. See you next week. See you next week. Bye.